Saturday, November 01, 2008
Querida Enemiga #93 – Friday October 31 – Happy Halloween, The Wicked Witch is Back (aka Sara) and Omar’s Still a Jerk
Hortensia says her thanks and goodbyes to Joaquina, who tells Hortensia she’s going to visit the family and to contact her if Hortensia gets her apartment, and then takes the suitcase downstairs. Nurse Augie is left with Hortensia, who is wondering how she can stay strong with all this—she earned her own isolation. They both look pensive, and Hortensia says it’s time to go, so they do. Omar shows up at Hortensia’s just as she says her last farewell to the big house, and offers her the opportunity of a lifetime to live in the lesser house. Hortensia gives him a big hug and tells him she doesn’t deserve it. He reassures her. She worries that not everyone in the lesser house might buy it and he assures her they agree. Then she worries about Nurse Augie, who assures Hortensia if she needs Augie, Hortensia knows where to find her. Hortensia thinks she’ll lack nothing in the care of her family. She hugs Omar again. Aw.
While Bárbara plays with Saulito, Diana and Vasco muse over this turn of events—after all she’s done, Hortensia’s coming to live in the lesser house? But, what else could they do? Vasco is surprised at what she’s done. Diana has to admit she was the only one against it. But in the end, this is an old lady who needs help. Vasco is just a sourpuss about it all but Bárbara notes that life has some weird turns, that her mother in law ends up in the house with the son she rejected and in this neighborhood! Vasco doesn’t want her commentary. Okay, I said it ugly, but it’s the truth, Bárbara acknowledges. Diana points out that it’s just Vasco who hasn’t forgiven the old gal. He doesn’t think he can because of what Hortensia did to him. To them. He looks pointedly at Diana. Diana tells him he can’t go on living with that bitterness.
Omar’s voice calls Lorena and Diana while he helps Hortensia into the house. Santa Lorena greets her Granny with open arms and a big welcome. Granny thanks her—how can she look Lorena in the eye?—she knows it was Lorena who pulled it off for her. Hortensia did Lore wrong and Lorena has given her life back. Twice. The isolation would have killed her, too. Santa Lorena tells Granny they’ve been sad enough. She wants her Granny to feel good. [Ed. Note: Their hair is almost the same color.] Where else could she be but with her family? Hortensia hugs her and Lore calls her “Abuela.” She likes the sound of it and repeats it, Hortensia and Omar smiling indulgently at her.
Alonslow is back in the land of the living, his zombie phase over. He needs to get his class preps done [remember those, Susanlynn? What you’re supposed to be doing instead of reading this? ;-) ] Bettina teases him about coming over to make sure he had a distraction and he’s back to our serious-minded Alonslow, not needing distractions. He’s pleased with his classes and all’s well with the world. Bettina quizzes him about the students, and he tells how they were all nervous at first but little by little they’re getting on. Toribio is excited—that’s my boy! Paula smiles, pleased to see her brother with a good close shave. [Okay, I added that.] Alonslow takes their hands in a family solidarity gesture and thanks them for being there for him (their support). Paula reminds him they’re his family, and they’re all together in this. Toribio is easily distracted even if Slow isn’t—he’s back to the card game. Smiles all around.
Jaime, Maruja, Julián and Rossy have brought a party to the lesser house. After greetings, Jaime tells Hortensia how happy he is to see her there, she is clearly a different person, and by the way, wouldn’t she like to help with their little start-up company? Hortensia is honored, but she wants to be sure everyone agrees. She faces off with Rossy—it seems that Rossy isn’t pleased with this. Rossy, totally direct as always, tells Hortensia she remembers how it was in Hortensia’s company….and Hortensia affirms that what Jaime has observed is true. She’s not the same person. That woman doesn’t exist. Rossy gets a little smile. Hortensia says they might not all believe it, but if they give her a try, she’ll prove herself. Rossy says if Lorena vouches for Hortensia, she’ll go with the program (who am I to question?). Smiles all around, and the bell rings. Lorena, almost the farthest from the door, jumps up to grab it. It’s Diana, Barb, and Saulito. Diana greets Hortensia, Bárbara remarks on how nifty it is she’s found her family again (“I’m in awe!” Tengo ojo cuadrado), and everything is resolved. Well, not quite everything. Where’s my grandson? Son of a gun, the kid’s smiling and bringing her a bonsai plant, “¡aquí, Abuela!” Was there a break I missed when he had a total 180? Vasco’s SMILING, too! He’s brought the tree as a sign of affection and respect. He couldn’t stay Put Out (fighting) with her. Hugs, claps, smiles. Clearly, there’s a fiesta to come. Hortensia thanks everyone and Omar urges them all to toast.
Time passes? Lorena’s back for a visit with her Mami, and tells Zulema that her Granny lives with them now. [If that doesn’t bring Zulema back from the dead, nothing will.] Lorena tells her Mami that she forgave her Granny from the bottom of her heart, and it wasn’t just lip service, It took a weight off her (rested her soul) that in spite of everything, they could have such affection after all. Zulema keeps breathing with the O2 tube.
More time passes? Lorena tells Zulema everything that is happening in all their lives. We hear her voice, and see the scenes she describes, as if in the haze of a coma. “Cooking with Joy” has never had a better team, and Ern works well with Lorena. [That’s my take, not what Lore told Zulema.] Lorena tells her Mami about what’s happening on the program and we see it play out—she’s never had more work and she’s loving it. She tells Zulema about school—it’s going marvelously. She tells Zulema about her brother and Rossy. He’s overcome his sadness, and he and Rossy are getting better together all the time. We see Rossy and Julián laughing and walking together. The business is building/growing/improving little by little, due to everyone’s hard work.. We see Jaime and Maruja planning, Bárbara marketing by phone, Hortensia tasting with Maruja, Rossy, Patty and Lorena looking on for the verdict….which is a HUGE grin. Is it just me, or is Snorty’s nose smaller? Laughs and hugs in the kitchen. Lorena tells Zulema about her grandson, Saulito. He’s more lovely and looks more like Zulema all the time. He has his first tooth and she’ll teach him to say Zulema’s name. Lorena tells Zulema that her Papa is the only one who is more sad all the time. He must miss Zulema very much.
Times passes, and this time we are pretty sure of it because she’s wearing a different outfit than when she started the daily diary with Zulema. Lorena addresses her Mami directly after telling her the whole story of what’s happening, person by person. “Mama, you need to wake up already.” They all miss her and they are all waiting for her. Alonslow appears at the door of the room and Lorena lights up, whispering his name, while he looks like he wants to sink through the floor. He cheers a little when he sees her smile. They chitchat about their visits to Zulema—the nurses have told her he never stops coming. He affirms it and wonders that they’ve never crossed paths—she comes every day, right? Yep. Lorena explains that she comes to “keep her up to date with everything that’s happening.” She’s been like this for four months. [Ed. Note: apparently, time WAS passing.] Lorena still has high hopes for Zulema coming back. More chitchat. What’s up, how has he been? Slow tells her he’s giving classes at the university. Great! And he watches her on television, never misses it. He tries out her recipes. Really? Yep, he’s learning to cook, thanks to her. Lorena abruptly decides it’s time to run and excuses herself. Slow tells her how glad he was to see her. She tells her Mami goodbye and gives her a kiss, barely acknowledging Slow as she charges out. Slow stands, arms crossed, wooden as ever.
In the waiting area, Ern has come looking for Lorena. He’s come for her and she realizes it’s late—he’s waiting as if he was her chauffeur. That’s the least of it, he assures her. Alonslow comes out of Zulema’s room behind her. She sees Ern’s look at the door over her shoulder, turns, sees Slow, and uncomfortably says “let’s blow this pop stand.” (Okay, I elaborated). Ern sighs and heads away, saying NOTHING. [Ed. Note: Good boy!] Slow is stewing his own juices. That’s what he deserves, Slow tells himself. (That is, Ernesto deserves her. Agreed.)
Omar has looked Greta up again and they’re having coffee. He tells her the past months have been tough for him. He feels very lonely – he sees no benefit in fooling himself. Zulema’s not going to recover. He’s tried to be a good son, a good father, but still feels really empty, lonely. Greta really gets him built up/excited. He’s thought about her the entire time, more than she can imagine. He wants her to give him a try again. This time he won’t deceive her. Greta just sits and listens, looking a little wary but it could be part of her act. [Oh! Who said that? (looking behind my shoulder)].
At the lesser house, night has descended and Hortensia is talking to Samuel Armengol, the big guy who does her heavy lifting. [Ed. Note: nice to see that Snorty hasn’t done a full 180, but reserves the worst part of herself for Sara.] She notes that he hasn’t communicated in months. He wants to know why she’s so upset he hasn’t found anything set in stone? He’s been onto something, but doesn’t have all the news they need—he thinks he’s found something important, though. Sara took off for Sydney four months ago. She had a ticket on a private (redondo) trip, but never returned. Hortensia spits out that if her plane crashed, that would be some punishment. Samuel will try to determine Sara’s whereabouts (paradero) or whatever info he can find, then call Hortensia later. Lorena comes in the door. She’s brought Granny’s meds. Lore wants to know who she was talking with and Snortensia lies—Uncle Jaime. Is her Papi home? Yep. He hasn’t gone to say hi to his Mami. Hortensia thinks maybe he’s fed up with having her here. Santa Lorena, always in the middle, tells Hortensia it’s because he must have had a bad day at the office because he’s got that look. Doesn’t even want to eat. Hortensia takes that as a bad sign. Maybe it’s because she’s a burden. Lorena gives her a fond scold—how can you think that? She smiles gently. She’s got to go study—tomorrow is the test. They say goodnight. Snortensia muses to herself about Sara off traveling. How lucky for her, the b***h.
In the living room, Lorena greets Omar, who doesn’t want to eat when she asks, is super serious and wants to talk with her about something REALLY important. About what? The last few months you’ve shown that you’re the real head of this family. Santa Lorena humbly says she’s his daughter, nothing more. The real head of the family has been, and continues to be, Omar. He denies it—they don’t really need him. They’re adults, her and her siblings. Lorena frowns. Why is he saying all this? He stammers that he needs her understanding. [Is an anvil falling?} He’s gone back with Greta. Lorena frowns, long commercial impactidíssima.
Lorena confronts Omar—he PROMISED he had broken off with Greta. Yeah, he followed through. That was then, this is now. She even resigned from work. He defends himself…but Lorena is too akamai (astute, wise, NOT a Spanish word—Hawaiian, and the best one I know to describe her now). So, qué the h*** happened? Omar goes on his best version of pathetic offensive—he’d give his live if Zulema could get well, but it’s not happening, etc., and he feels so lonely, etc. Hablablablabla. It’s impossible. Lorena figures out he’s going after some other woman. That woman. Her look of reproach should do him in, but a higher force is calling him…..you can guess what that might be….. He again tries to convince Lore if there’s anyone who has loved her Mami it’s him, and she’s just not part of this world. Lorena insists her mother will come back, and the first one she’ll ask for is him. What will they say? That he’s gone off with a woman taking advantage? No, he’s not going to permit that. He tries to convince her it’s not taking advantage. He’s made a decision. What? He’s going to live with Greta. He’s going today. Lorena’s look of anguished reproach would kill any other man who didn’t have a lifetime supply of Viagra.
The viejas are back to their card games, and Greta is NOT the life of the party, for a change. Maruja and Paula wonder what’s up with that. Wake up, woman! Greta waxes philosophical. Every day, it’s more difficult for them to find happiness. Paula tells her to give it up (suéltalo-let it go, tell us). Maruja seconds it—no more beating around the bush. Who is her boyfriend? Huh? Greta finally makes eye contact. Omar. Your brother-in-law. Maruja’s grin fades. Paula yells at Greta—“you’re back with him?” Maruja is impactada—what do you mean, “back with him?” She glares at Paula, who is only the messenger, after all. Paula blurts out that this one (Greta) messed with Omar since before Zulema was laid low. “¿QUÉ?”
Lorena is appalled that Omar plans to move in with Greta. How CAN he do that? Diana hears the fussing and comes to find out what it’s about. Lorena, still incensed, tells her Papi to say it if he has the courage. Omar says he’s fallen in love with someone else and he’s going to live with her. Lorena clarifies it’s Greta, with all her outrage showing. Diana accuses him of not really loving her Mamá, so little is his love lasting, and he’s given her up for dead. Omar has a hard time making eye contact. He protests, trying to explain himself. Why don’t they want to understand? Diana says she’ll never understand and if he goes, she’ll forget he exists. Why are they being so drastic, he asks—even if he doesn’t live here, they are still his daughters. That will never change. What? That won’t change? Lorena is incensed. This is a BETRAYAL!!! He retorts they are only keeping her alive through artificial treatment. Oh, Sure. Lorena isn’t buying his arguments. He tells her not to say things she’ll regret and she tells him not to make her ashamed that he’s her father. Stalemate, two stubborn souls have faced off.
Maruja wonders if Greta has gone nuts. Maybe. Crazy with love. Paula thinks she’s become a….and Greta interrupts that Paula doesn’t need to insult her. What does she want, Maruja wonders, applause? Greta is doing a semi-convincing job of crying. Support, that’s what she expects from her friends. She looks back and forth desperately. Maruja points out that Zulema got that operation because she wanted her husband back. If Greta had any decency, she would have kept herself way apart from Omar, after this misfortune. [And no one has pointed out that Zulema BEGGED Greta to help her nail the other woman, whom Greta denied existed.] Greta asserts she did it, kept herself away from him. But Paula zaps her on being immoral, no matter what she says. Greta protests that she’s only taken what life offered. The two of them have experienced the loneliness, they should understand! Paula look indignant. Maruja is just angry and disgusted.
Omar tells the girls not to tell Julián; he wants to tell them personally. Hortensia accosts him—what about her? Didn’t he think about telling her, or is she just a piece of the furniture? Omar is impactado to see her in the room. Mama? Well, is he going to answer her or not? She asserts she doesn’t have the moral qualities to scold him, but she’s just saying—if he is convinced that this woman is good for him (suits him), then he wouldn’t be going in the middle of the night, fleeing with his head hung low. He retorts that he doesn’t want to be reproached. Diana and Lorena jump up in harmony—Diana spits out to “Let him GO! He’s obviously decided.” Lorena tells him he’s leaving them alone when they most need him. He protests that he has an opportunity to be happy again. Sorry if that makes you suffer, and that’s not my intent. Lorena nails him with “ask my mother’s pardon when she wakes up and you’re not at her side.” Hortensia is all disapproval. [Ed. Note: Me, too.] He looks back at his Mami. She shakes her head in disapproval and he turns to leave with his suitcase. The girls cry, sigh, and grieve while Hortensia is thoroughly annoyed at her son.
Maruja and Paula talk the new turn of events over in the car. Maruja wonders how Paula could have helped cover this all up with Greta and Omar. No, Paula asserts, she didn’t cover up anything. She nailed Greta, who said she’d end it with Omar, even to the point of quitting her job. She begs Maruja not to be mad with her. Maruja mutters that Greta is shameless. Look at how our friendship with her has ended! Paula tells her not to feel so bad—this isn’t worth the trouble, to have her as a friend or ANYthing. Maruja is pensive.
Speaking of the King and Queen of Rome, the bell rings at Greta’s house and she runs to greet Omar, suitcase in tow, and one hand humbly in his pocket. He’s ready to be henpecked. She wants him to be comfortable—this IS his house. A grinning Greta pushes a grinning Omar into the living room. Does he want a drink to relax him? She talks 90 miles a second—she understands it must have been hard to leave his family. Yup. No one bought what he’s doing here. She tells him the only ones who are important here are the two of them. Greta inundates him with kisses.
Maruja arrives home gloomy to find Jaime hard at work. Jaime was waiting for her to call to come and get her. Maruja sighs—Paula brought her. Why isn’t she giving him a kiss? Because she is FURIOUS! She just learned stuff about his brother and her poor former friend. Maruja crosses her arms in annoyance and Jaime is impactado.
Vasco has a new job, selling seedlings to kids on the street. A kid asks what the tree is and Vasco explains, it’s an “abeto” (fir) and it’s one that can become a great forest, if we plant a whole bunch. It could serve to improve the air in an entire city. Wow, the kid sighs. Patty appears to be helping and she’s already planted a bunch. Vasco comments that the campaign was a total success. She notes that the kids had a real feel for it, more than the adults. They want to really save the planet. Well, her, too. He’s delighted she feels that way. Totally involved with the ecology. And why not, she flirts gently, because he’s contaminated her with his enthusiasm for nature. [Loose translation. ;-) ] She smiles shyly and Vasco returns the smile. Maybe his achy breaky heart is healing.
Julián has been summoned by his sisters in a gang up. He’s curious and Lorena tells him the summit is about Papi. Okay, what’s wrong with him? Nothing’s WRONG, Diana tells him, it’s what he’s DONE. He’s left home, Lorena explains. Dad? How can that be? He’s left for another woman. Don’t be messing with me! (No me friegues, don’t be kidding me). Why are you hitting me with this? Okay, he told us not to tell you so he could tell you himself, but what could we do? Julián is incensed—it seems like he doesn’t give a rip about my mother! He understands, though, ‘cuz Mami isn’t coming back. In frustration Lorena scolds him for giving Zulema up for dead like his Dad has. She says Omar is a traitor. He’s been hanging out with Greta since before they operated on Mami. Julián and Diana look at each other, impactadissímos. Lorena admits that she kept quiet so as to not create a worse problem. Julián attacks Lorena—she shut up about something this serious? Diana thinks she shouldn’t have. Lore explains that she confronted Omar and he assured her it was over, but now it seems not. Diana spits out that this b***h was at Julián’s wedding, looking them all right in the eye. Julián wants to know who this woman actually is—Lorena enlightens him. It’s Greta, Maruja’s friend. Wretch! Where does that woman live? Julián jumps up – he’s going off to give Omar a piece of his mind (tell him everything he deserves). Diana tries to dissuade him. What’s that going to get us? Nothing! Julián yells again—how could he do this to our mother?? The bell rings and Diana jumps up for it. Rossy and Maruja rush in. Maruja has told Rossy everything. Maruja swears to Julián by everything sacred that she just heard this news from Greta last night. She told Greta to go to the devil. Julián wants Maruja to tell him where Greta lives. Maruja stays quiet and he yells his demand. Rossy tries to dissuade him, too, urging him to calm down and not do something foolish, with the same result as Diana got. Nope, it’s Omar doing the foolish stuff. Lorena just looks up and everyone is quiet. Are they going to tell him or not??? Maruja tells Julián if he wants to talk to Omar, he’s at home with Jaime for the moment. Rossy chides her mother as Julián dashes out the door. Maruja points out that Jaime is there and it’s better if they argue Jaime is present. He could be a mediator. [Ed. Note: apparently she hasn’t seen Julián in a fit of real anger.] Rossy sighs and dashes after him. Maruja sighs and hopes she hasn’t made a big mistake here.
Jaime gives Omar a shot of tequila, and Omar asks if Jaime’s also condemning him. Jaime says he’s not judging, but he was really surprised when Maruja told him that the relationship with Greta had been long-term. Omar swears he tried to forget her but the loneliness was stronger. He thought he had a right to live, thinking of the future. Jaime can’t deny that, but it’s the way he went about it. He should have waited. Julián bursts in the door, rabid with fury. “You and I have to talk man to man” he spits out to Omar, who is commercial impactado.
“What you did to my mother is a travesty (porquería – lousy, rubbish)!” Jaime tries to intervene. Julián is upset and this isn’t going to resolve anything. Julián looks at Omar and yells that this matter is between this gentleman and himself, then looks back at Jaime defiantly. Jaime tries to get Omar to go. Julián yells at Jaime not to help Omar evade this. Does Jaime know what this bas***d did to Julián’s mother? Jaime yells at Julián to calm down and not say stuff he’ll be sorry for later. Julián is sure the only one who will be sorry is Omar. He sputters it all defiantly at Omar. He tried to understand Omar, until he found out that Omar was betraying his mother when she was WELL. And Omar just kept looking them all in the eye, the bas***d! Omar yells at Julián not to diss me, son. Julián yells back that Omar shouldn’t be calling him that, Julián has NO father now. He died today! Omar asks for his understanding and Julián charges at him, to be stopped by Jaime pushing him back. Julián’s rage shows on his face and in his stance. He turns to leave. Jaime heaves a sigh and turns back to Omar, who is muttering that he knew he would lose them; he knew it.
As night falls in the D. F., a lovely and smiling Valeria has knocked on Alonslow’s door and is warmly greeted. Slow’s so surprised (and apparently pleased) to see her! Big hugs. [Ed. Note: for all of us who wanted Val back, hooray!!] She tells him she just arrived back today. Big smiles and gazes between the friends.
Julián has finally decided to return home. Rossy jumps up from the table where she, Jaime and Maruja are eating dinner to greet Julián. She asks nervously if he’s been drinking again. Nope. He was just walking to clear his head. He asks Jaime’s forgiveness for his yelling in the morning; Jaime was right, he might have been saying things he’ll be sorry for later. Jaime understands—it was clear his blood was boiling. Julián feels betrayed, but Omar is the only father he has known. He feels like he needs to forgive Omar, and he’s not sure he can. Maruja tells him not to think about it right now when it hurts so much, but take some time, distance himself, and think about it when things cool down. Rossy echoes the thought. So you can think about it when you’re calm…. Jaime joins the chorus. Julián knows they are there to give him a hand when he needs it. Julián smiles a little at them.
Slow wants to know all about Valeria’s return—what’s up with it, is it for real? Yep. Everything with the folks went marvelously and they were so good with the kiddies, but she wasn’t earning much and it finally caught up with them. What about their Papá? Val hasn’t heard a word from him since she left and when she went by the house to find him there wasn’t a soul there, not even his mother. Slow thinks that’s pretty strange. He explains what his father told him about Catalina disappearing from the face of the earth. Your father? Yeah, they were for a while. Oooh! Val can’t believe it. Slow asks if she’s looking for work. Yep, she called Dra. Serrano and the Dra. will see her tomorrow. Slow looks down. Did she tell you what happened? Yes. Valeria sympathizes-what a tragedy, and you had just gone back with Lorena, and it turned out that Zulema was her real mother. Slow tells her it’s a long story. He took it upon himself to find out that Lorena was the real granddaughter of Hortensia Armendáriz. Then also he took it upon himself to snatch her mother away so they could never be together again. Valeria frowns at him and gives him a lovely empathetic look.
Speaking of the Queen and Princess of Rome, they’re hanging out in the living/dining room of the lesser house, Lorena at the table with her head on her hands, elbows on the table, and Hortensia strolling in to join her. Diana and Saulito are there, too—and he’s babbling away! Hortensia doesn’t like to see them like this, but Diana points out there’s nothing much to smile about, sorry about that. Hortensia points out she can’t defend Omar, much less now with what has happened. Lorena murmurs that she feels betrayed—Hortensia knows that. She doesn’t agree with how he did those things. But no matter how you feel, you can’t forget that he is your father. Lorena mutters of course not, but the one who has forgotten is him. Hortensia points out that right now they might not want to see him, but he’s hasn’t committed a crime. Diana thinks Hortensia is pretty quick to defend him because she’s his mother. Hortensia denies defending him; she doesn’t agree with what he’s done and he’s taken the easy way out. But he’s always been a good father; don’t condemn him for having a weakness. Lorena stands and walks to face her Granny—“You’re right, but don’t ask me to look at him like nothing happened, because in my opinion it’s a betrayal.” She continues that her mother is still alive and will wake up some day. Hortensia affirms that God should hear her and that’s what she wants from the heart. Diana gets up with Saulito (who’s looking offstage, no doubt at something very interesting). For her, it’s all an illusion (espejismo). As more time passes, she believes less in miracles. Hortensia points out that Vasco came out of a coma and she herself came back. All of them even forgave her. Of course miracles exist! Lorena gives her a sweet, wistful, small smile.
Alonslow explains to Val that he’s been through some really difficult, critical times, where his self-esteem was zip and had to work hard to hold his head up. He lost Lorena’s love forever. Why? Did she reproach you for what happened to her mother? No, and it wasn’t the first time he had lived through an accident, but he just couldn’t keep looking Lorena in the eyes. Their relationship could never continue the same way. He couldn’t let go of the guilt. Valeria tells him not to be sad and remember that they can’t stay paralyzed by their problems. She gets ready to clean up their coffee cups and he touches her wrist ---leave them and I’ll get them later. [Ed. Note: Val touched his wrist that way earlier about something and I forgot to note it. Probably good for both of these rejected folks.] Her smile is brilliant and her face radiant. “You know what is best about my return? We can have our friendship back again.” He looks at her somberly, but with a slight smile that is fond. Val shakes her head. “Oh, Alonso, you don’t’ know how much I’ve missed you. And I’m not going to excuse you for not coming looking for me to tell me what happened; I would have been there to help you. That’s what friends are for, right?” He looks down again and responds that he was such a fool, but felt so ashamed he couldn’t look her in the eye. But he admits it would have been great to have her there all this time. She asks about Bruno and learns he quit. He’s working for a private hospital. She sighs, no doubt to earn more money—that’s all he wants. She’s surprised that anyone contracted with him, though, because he’s no great physician. For a good doc, it’s you. She grins at him coquettishly. She compliments his charisma and great looks. He grins, hangs his head a little, and tells her she’s biased (look at me with good eyes). She insists that next to Slow, Bruno is a burro in a lab coat as a doc. Slow chuckles and reaches out to take her hand. They gaze at each other, her hands in his.
Vasco has somehow ended up entertaining Patty at home (his or hers, who knows?) and she’s busy playing with finger paints. She asks his opinion on colors, and he thinks yellow, which he opens so clumsily that it spills all over her lap. He grabs a towel and tries to wipe her down in sensitive places but she thinks he might as well leave it there. She stands and looks down at the mess, then turns toward him. Vasco is embarrassed and frowns a little. Patty just grabs him and kisses him. He smiles and looks down—they’re a pair, both with yellow paint. They smile at each other and chuckle.
There’s a short silence; he touches his lip and asks what that kiss was. Oh, a kiss, nothing more, she tells him. It was spontaneous but sincere. She gazes at his face. Then she tells him she likes him a lot—he’s really special. Why special? You’re lovely, genuine, and very sincere. She is enchanted by his love for the environment, and thinks he’s is really passionate about it and will defend what he cares about. He really is pleased to hear that she values him so much. She fishes for what he thinks about her? Doesn’t he value her at least a little? Of course! She’s really lovely and solid. But? Patty looks anxious. There’s no but, however, I’m not really too emotionally secure right now—he shrugs—the thing with Diana left me bad off, and I don’t think I can return the feelings right now. Well, if you never try, you’ll never know. I don’t have doubts, Patty tells him sincerely. She cares about him. He smiles, says her name, takes her head in his hands, and kisses her. And again.
The winged victory keeps watch over the D. F. and we find ourselves on the set of “Cooking with Joy.” Lorena insists that the Crema Catalana can have either milk or cream in it, and Ern disagrees, strictly with milk. Lorena sighs in frustration. Who said? Ern wants to know. My mother, in her recipe book. And that’s how Madre Asunción made it. He gives in, because he can’t do a thing against her real teachers. They both smile as they have the standoff. Lorena’s a little embarrassed—you’re my teacher, too….where the captain orders, the sailor doesn’t rule. He just looks at her fondly and she wonders why he’s staring. Guess. No, tell me. Really, you don’t know? It’s her turn to stare as he comes in slowly for a biiiig kiss. And off to commercial we go.
Lorena tells Ern “no, no.” He’s taken aback. [Frankly, I am, too. Qué the heck “no??”] He tells her to calm down, no one’s here to see them. It’s not that. He tells her to think carefully before she speaks. She notes that he’s been so good with her these past months, has helped her, supported her, and she appreciates it. But? That and nothing more? You are grateful but don’t love me? He shakes his head a little at the thought. Come on, say it all. No, she hesitates, it’s that….her heart still isn’t too healthy. Yesterday she saw Alonslow a bit more recovered, for a moment she felt that… What? That now there’s no obstacle to going back with him? Then why don’t you go after him, then. Let’s see if he can get over the fear of loving you. He stalks off behind the counter where they cook and she follows, protesting. No, she’s not going after him and beg him to love her. Okay, do whatever you want, he tells Lorena, but don’t talk about him any more to me. She tries to tell Ernesto she cares about him, but…. But what? He tells her she might be fooling herself, he knew that she felt this kiss like he did, she’s his Lorena of before—HIS Lorena. She tells him she wishes she could be. She’d give anything to go back to those days before. Ern scolds himself for being an idiot to believe he could win her love back again. Lorena is just s.a.d. The camera guy comes to have them take the positions for the camera checks. She sadly walks to her place, and Ern is angry and hurt. They steal glances at each other. Doesn’t bode well for today’s chemistry.
Slow describes Val showing up at the door to Toribio. She’s back to stay. Good, you’ve got your friend back. Yep. I like that idea a lot! I’m realizing how much I’ve missed talking with her. Oh, Lorena’s program is on. He goes to turn on the tele. Since he’s been watching her program, he’s learned to cook well enough. Toribio can’t complain and thinks he’s really improved. Slow feels like he’s close to her every day this way, even if she is at Ern’s side. He takes up his paper and pencil to write down what they say. We hear Ernesto’s and Lorena’s voices on the program in the background. They appear to be getting along as they describe the Crema Catalana they’ll be preparing, then they go to commercials. In a clever move by the writers and directors, we don’t go back to Slow’s apartment, we stay on the set with Ern and Lorena. Ern’s smile fades and he sighs loudly. Lorena glances at him. Well, should she go for the cream? He petulantly tells her to do what she wants; she always does anyway. She tells him not to behave like a capricious child. What, is he supposed to have a happy smile after what she just told him? Lorena goes sadly off to get the cream—whatever you want. He repents and follows her—but don’t worry, I’ll get over it. “I understand perfectly what my place is in your life.” Lorena looks up at him somberly. There’s a lot of that going around. He doesn’t get a smile from her so he goes off to his corner, sighing again. She frowns and looks dejected.
Dra. Serrano has the perfect position for Val—she’ll be the chief of hematology. Great, Val tells her, and thanks for having such trust in me! Well, this interview seems to be going well, doesn’t it? Val remarks that she had been so doubtful of trying to come back. Dra. says she’s done the right thing. Her experience is very valuable to the clinic. We know they’re in the Dra.’s office in the hospital because the ambulance sirens are going in the background. Val thanks the Dra., and remarks it’s sad that Slow won’t be there. The Dra. feels the same, but she couldn’t do too much in the face of the authorities’ decision. Val wonders if they couldn’t look at the case again. The Dra. wanted to do that but not say much about it until she could count on a more favorable outcome. She asks Val to keep it their little secret. Val nods knowingly.
Patty and Vasco chat in an industrial-sized kitchen about a protest she’s gone to with him. He thanks her and admires her enthusiasm for the cause. Did he think she was going to miss it after she made so many posters? Plus, she liked being with him. He felt the same, he tells her. Lovely kisses, but the timing’s off. Diana’s here. She disappears out the swinging door after seeing them kissing. Vasco needs to run, too—they’ll see each other after a while, right? Yep. Call me, she tells him, grinning broadly as he goes. Diana comes in, and Patty tells her Vasco just left. Yep, I saw you two. Patty hopes that Diana’s not bent out of shape that she and Vasco have gotten together. No, there’s no reason for that and she hopes they’ll be happy together. Patty tells her if it’s up to her, he will be and not to worry; she cares a lot about him. Awkward silence. Patty says she’d better go change. Diana is pensive.
Valeria has run into Slow at the hospital and they greet each other. Has she seen Noemi? (Dra. Serrano). Yes….Val grins – how bad of him, he should have told her he was coming and they could have come together. He asks how it went. He can congratulate her, she’s the new chief of hematology. He is really pleased for her and gives her a hug and congrats. Of course, it’s not the same without him. He thinks it’s better if they don’t talk about that. He remarks when he may practice again, if he gets in the mood. She urges him to remember he’s a very good doctor, never forget it. Even Noemi just said so. He’s lost his nerve and every time he sees Zulema he is reminded of what he did to her. Val thinks it speaks well of him that he’s concerned for Zulema. [Ed. Note: for a woman who was so dejected all the time with Arturo, she sure is coquettish with Alonslow. Too bad he can’t pick up on it.] He asks if she’ll go see Zulema with her. Of course! She glances sideways at him as they walk down the hall. Sheesh, is he brain vapor-locked when it comes to women! He does smile, though. Val asks about no changes in four months, really? Yeah, they thought she might go into brain death, but she hasn’t, fortunately. The EEGs report basic activity. Val remarks that she’s dependent on the respirator—other reflexes? Minimal ones, Alonslow tells her. He adds some medical stuff about Zulema not showing any significant involuntary movements and such, she’s being fed by “a probe” (sonda) and Val picks up the chart. [Ed. Note: there’s no IV hooked up, so they must be feeding Zulema by what we call a g-tube.] Val asks rapid-fire doc questions. Any cerebral lesions? Nothing localized. They’ve done the tomagraphies. It also looks like the basic organic functions are steady. Val remarks that with all the medical advances, it’s difficult to understand why they can’t get a handle on this precisely. Alonslow thinks Zulema has crossed a threshold. That’s why it breaks his heart that Lorena still has high hopes
At the lesser house, evening’s coming and Diana has come home. Where’s she been, Lorena asks. With her group—Diana feels much better talking with all the women who have suffered like she has. Lorena is happy for her. Diana said she even thought she might be over it to the point that she had thought to tell Vasco how much she loves him. The tears come. So, why didn’t she do it? Because he’s going with Patty. No, they’re good friends, nothing more, Lorena tells her. Diana lets Lorena know she saw them kissing.
The graduation day has arrived and Patty gets her certificate/diploma for cooking school and a hug from Ernesto, with cheers and applause from the crowd and Vasco taking pictures. He gives her a thumbs up and grin, while Diana looks miserable next to him, then a little disgusted as Patty blows him a kiss. Lorena gives Patty a hug as Patty returns to her seat. Ern asks for their attention. Every year the institute honors one student with academic distinction. It’s the student whose GPA is the highest. The director steps forward to name the distinguished student—it’s Lorena de la Cruz! Ern gives her the certificate/diploma and a gentle kiss. The director lady gives her a rolled up paper and Lorena gets to say a few words. She thanks the teachers, the institute, her family, and everyone who has helped in her career. But this honor……I dedicate to my Mamá. She tears up a little. Wishing that some day she’ll be well, and can cook with me again. She gives her thanks again. Diana looks proud and wistful. Julián is proud and serious. They applaud with the crowd. Omar is noticeably absent. Lore holds the two papers up in triumph and the applause continues. Hortensia is there with a big smile for her granddaughter. Ern must have gotten over his pique—his smile is all love and huge. Sigh.
Lorena has to share her diploma with Zulema, who hasn’t opened her eyes in months. “I’m a chef!” Lorena tells Zulema how she dedicated her recognition to her, and begs her again to wake up. They have so much to do together—she misses Zulema!
In the living room of the lesser house, Julián wonders why Lorena is so late, and Diana reminds him she always goes to see Zulema. Julián is concerned whether he should really tell Lorena about some apparently important subject today. Diana tells him she thinks it’s better Lorena knows right away. Good timing, here’s Lorena. She’s surprised to see Julián—why is he here? He came so they could talk. About what? He tells her they want to disconnect their mother. No, don’t say such a stupid thing! Lorena is appalled. How could they think of taking their mother’s life? Julián points out that their mother lost her life long ago. How does he DARE to say that? Julián tells Lorena she’s seen what Zulema is like. Diana tries to defend the decision—to let her retain a little bit of dignity and so we’ll be at peace. Lorena cries while Julián continues that Zulema doesn’t really have a life. She’s depending on the machines, so don’t be selfish. Let her go. NEVER. Diana begs her to think about this (react). There hasn’t been a single sign in all this time. Lorena is defiant—they may have lost faith but she hasn’t. Only God can decide, not them. Julián says he’s decided already. Diana takes her by the shoulders but Lorena runs out shouting “let me go!” She slams the door, leaving Julián and Diana miserable and Lorena’s miserable, too. She stands in front of the house, talking to herself or God, who knows. They can’t do this to Mamá. Don’t they love you? Lorena’s phone rings. It’s the television program “Mid-day” and they’re reminding her of her interview. She pulls her act together briefly and affirms that she’ll be seeing them. Then she cries some more.
The Happy Wanderers are home again and Fluffy remarks on how good it always is to get home. They don’t seem to have any luggage; must be some lackey takes care of it. Not even Bruto has to schlep bags. He does have to close the door, though. [Ed. Note: Sara has grown long, curly hair in four months. Must not be too many hair stylists where they went to cut it.] Bruto appreciates that Fluffy and Sara will let him be their guest. Of course, Fluffy assures him, why should he be paying rent some place when Fluffy needs his doc 24/7? Bruto gives him a lovely fakey grin. What’s more, with this little woman he could have multiple heart attacks. [Ed. Note: yeah, but it would likely be from the stuff she puts in your OJ, not from the bedroom stuff.] He kisses her cheek and she plays it right up. Bruto’s fake smile slides away. Sara and Bruto stare off at each other while Fluffy looks around his shoulder at the guest room and points out where it is to Bruto, who thanks him and heads off in the general direction. Fluffy spins Sara to tell her in other times he would have carried her, but now he needs a massage only she can give. She thinks he needs a bath to relax and he negotiates for a backrub. Kissy-kissy. [Ugh.] He goes off to get his bath and Sara sighs in disgust.
The host of the Mid-day program hypes Lorena and tells his audience they wanted to interview her. She thanks him and the audience claps in the background of the set. They sit and begin. “You’ve entered our homes to stay. Did you ever imagine you’d be so well-received?” Lorena, always humble, says she didn’t. She appreciates it from the heart. He asks her to explain where she first learned to cook. [Okay, let’s see how she handles this orphanage story, then finding the real parents, and ending up forgiving the Granny who had her kidnapped.] The first dish she made was a soup. Who taught her? Her mother? No, a beloved nun, Madre Asunción. It was nothing complicated, a soup of chicken and potato. In his living room, Alonslow is glued to the tele, remote in hand, hearing her voice. She describes her panqués, which were her salvation once she arrived in Mexico City. They sold well on the street, and brought her really fine clients. Well, well, apparently the whole world watches this program, because Ernesto is glued to his tele at home, too. She continues….”what’s more, on the same street, something happened that was truly incredible.” Ernesto urges her to tell them! Tell them! Tell them that’s where we began to fall in love! Lorena says that’s where she got a contract to work in a restaurant. Ernesto deflates. The interviewer says that it’s been said she’s in the habit of overcoming challenges. She smiles—she tries not to let them conquer her. For herself and for the people she loves. He asks about her future plans. Lorena tells him she is trying not to have too many future plans because….she’s expecting a miracle. The interviewer is totally intrigued. She continues that her mother fell into a coma a little before she started on the program and the doctors don’t give her much hope, but Lorena has faith. The interviewer is a little impactado. Lorena tells him that she goes each day expecting her mother to open her eyes and look at her. She stops briefly and he has nothing to say. Lorena continues that her plans have to wait until her mother is well. Back in Alonslow’s apartment, he’s writing quickly as her voice tells all the things she will do with her mother—take photos with her mother, take a trip, far from all the problems. Toribio comes around the corner to this scene and goes back to his room. At Ernesto’s the voice continues, and he listens and watches with a huge smile at Lorena’s faith that she’ll be able to do all these thousand things with her mother. Also, she’d like to bring Madre Carmelita and Madre Trinidad to the D. F. to show them lots of things [of course, she hasn’t explained to the interviewer they raised her]. Ivan comes around the corner at Ernesto’s, sees this scene, and turns back to his room with a serious face. At Fluffy’s condo, Sara hears Lorena’s voice as she comes into the living room and watches the television intently while the interviewer asks Lorena if she considers herself a winner. On the big-screen television, there’s Lorena, telling the world that if being considered a winner means a person who is content with herself, and has nothing to regret, can move forward and think of the future, yes, she is a winner. Sara curses Lorena’s image on the television. She HATES Lorena!
Monday: Lorena runs out of Zulema’s room for help and finds Alonslow at the hospital—Zulema has opened her eyes!
Jeanne
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THANK YOU (even more than usual) for recounting that horror. I wonder if Sara's still nauseated by Fafy, or if she got used to him. I wonder if he's put her in his will (I bet he didn't).
Was Fafy's friend there too?
And did Bruno have to date guys while in Australia?
I liked Sara's new hair. Reminder to male viewers: long hair is easier to grab in a catfight.
I was horrified to see Omar move out of the house. He hasn't just betrayed Zulema, he's betrayed his children. And adult children can be as deeply hurt and disillusioned as younger ones. Regardless of the age, we all need parents we can love and also RESPECT.
Oh well. And for Omar to be absent at his daughter's graduation with honors. How sad. Traded his birthright (as a father) for a mess of pottage (Greta).
As for Sara, having to share the bed of a man she finds repellant for four whole months is the beginning of her punishment, I guess.
Great recap, Schoolmarm. Thanks for the embedded vocabulary, the wonderful detail, and most of all, for giving up part of your precious weekend to do this for us. You know how we treasure you.
Think of this, Julie--with all that long hair, there could be a three-way catfight for Alonslow's favors, with Sara, Valeria, and Lorena. Judging by Valeria last night, my money's on her.
Omar definitely crossed the line last night. He's my anti-hero forever. I actually liked him until the last few weeks. Sleazeball! He was disowned by his mother for his incredible love for Zulema. What's up with that now?
Jeanne
Now the plot really thickens --with Zulema waking up. I hope she kicks Omar to the curb when she finds out about Greta.
Thanks for the wonderful recap, Schoolmarm. I didn't get the whole conversation between Ernesto and Lorena before their show and appreciated your reproducing it, as well as all the other details I apparently missed, such as the medical discussion of Zulema between Slow and Val.
NJ Sue
Now the plot really thickens --with Zulema waking up. I hope she kicks Omar to the curb when she finds out about Greta.
Thanks for the wonderful recap, Schoolmarm. I didn't get the whole conversation between Ernesto and Lorena before their show and appreciated your reproducing it, as well as all the other details I apparently missed, such as the medical discussion of Zulema between Slow and Val.
NJ Sue
Jeanne
I agree with all that Val & Al are a good couple, I'm glad she's back.
The Omar storyline has just ended up in a sad place - willing to hurt and alienate everyone he supposedly loves to pursue his "happiness".
I like Sara's longer hair, too. I'm really looking forward to seeing how she and Bruno pay for their sins.
And I'm also looking forwad to Zulema's recovery and hopefully seeing her become a stronger and happier person. She was (understandably) so down over Omar's lack of interest in her and filled with anger over having her daughter stolen from her that she wasn't enjoying life, and eating herself to death. I hope the writers let her be an inspiration to everyone!
Omar is definitely conflicted. Though it goes against the grain here (you don't say!), I can empathize with him and with Greta. It's not as if Zulema, for all her efforts initially, didn't ask for what happened in their relationship prior to the operation. Also, it's obvious that the man was no longer sexually attracted to her and that is half at least of any relationship no matter how philosophically altrustic one attempts to be about it. What was left didn't fill all the emotional holes. Yes, he's weak, but if taste buds change every 7 years (and do pardon that pun)..... why not emotional needs? Otherwise people wouldn't be entering extra-marital relationships and eventually marrying those "significant" others who are better for them. // As for emotionally desperate Greta, she gave Omar what Zulema couldn't and later wouldn't. She's admitted her own loneliness and had as much justification as any lonely person does in a situation like this. Her contacts were limited, say, and she ended up taking what was there. She forever was unknowingly and always a day late and a dollar short with the single men she knew. She fell in love with a married man and left when Omar asked her to. Seems the guilt has been overwhelming, but like Omar told Jaime, the loneliness is always worse. You won't die from guilt, but you will from loneliness. That's what Hortensia's message was and why she wouldn't condemn Omar out of hand this time around. The woman has learned empathy and that nothing is ever black or white. Just MHO from my soapbox in my little corner and out to the WWW.
Omar is a rat! I actually feel kind of sorry for Regreta as I fear no good will come of their relationship (according to TN morality) and she will be the one left high and dry. Yes, she deserves it with her man-stealing ways but still, I thought her girlfriends dumped her rather quickly. Ah well, got to keep the plot humming along I guess. I'm glad Omar's kids are giving him such a hard time. As JudyB points out, Omar's absence at Lorena's proudest moment is deplorable.
Just read Cakes' comment. I haven't forgotten that Zulema tried for a long time to be a loving wife to Omar, but due to his physical problem (well I guess it was physical but maybe not) he wouldn't talk to her and rejected her horribly. I don't want to get into a he-started-it-she-started-it thing, I'm just saying. Regarding Greta's happiness, I've always been perplexed at how someone could be truly happy when their happiness depending on someone else's unhappiness, but I'll admit I've never been in Greta's situation. Whatever we feel about it, she seemed truly happy to have Omar come to her home, he seemed not as happy. Relationships can be so complicated, can't they?
This was a terrific recap Schoolmarm. You had a ton of events and conversation to wade through, that's for sure. All in all I liked this episode very much, even though Lorena kind of rejected Ern (grrrrr...), Omar rejected his family, and the kids want to pull the plug on mami, I was very happy that Val returned and Zulema opens her eyes! Thanks Schoolmarm.
I am envious of Sara's extraordinary hair growth of well more than an inch or two per month. Wish my growing out efforts were that successful but without TN brand shampoo I get the mere mortal rate of about 1/2 inch per month. HA! This show does have beautiful women in it. I had missed the whole first part so do not know Valerie except for her reappearance this week to sweeten the plot line and add some pretty faces that are not evil.
It is kind of frustrating to watch some of my heroes fall from grace so profoundly as Omar has. I can buy Jeanne's story about him being happier but what a creepy way to use your wife and children then basically walk away from them. He should have at least slid into the graduation ceremony to witness it from afar but he seems to have succumbed to Grita's invitation to think only about himself and her of course.
After a beautiful double wedding , we turn our attention to an ordinary day in the lives of the two couples.
Slo & Val
At clinic # 23 they are seen often passing in the hall giving loving glances to each other , droping in to their respective offices to give a quick "I love you".
Slo has perfected his GB surgery, and is performing at least 8 a day.
He has along waiting list , however giving little thought to counseling or listing the risks and problems after surgery.
Now we are in their home .
Val speaks "Slo(she calls him Slo ,she picked it up on some sort of blog, she thinks it's kind of cute). I keep telling you that you should be more concerned about your patients after surgery feelings it's not just about getting thin but you should make them realize it's not a magic cure.
Slo : " Your just jealous because of all the publicity I get , and because I was on the cover of "Bypass Weekly" .
All you are interested in is red and white blood cells ."
After a little more bickering ,to personal to go into here ,Val storms out of the room ,into the bedroom , slams the door and click goes the lock.
Slo thought bubbles "Does this mean I have to sleep on the couch again?"
Ern & Lor
After a great TV show ,teaching (Lor now also teaches)and cooking at their Four Star Restaurant we see them in their kitchen.
The kitchen is every women 's dream . Spacious, loads of cupboard space, every utensil,pot and pan you could imainge .
Ern speaks first: " My tongue has been hanging out for an omelet , I think I'll make one . You want one "Panque" ", his pet name.
Lor: No ,"Nestie", let me make it for you.
Lor gets out a bowl ,eggs , a small whisk , and heaven forbid ,flour! Cracks the eggs and starts to whisk them.
Ern:"Don't tell me your going to put flour in there , I told you it ruins the taste. "
Lor: "But on the TV show you said it was delicious."
Ern: "Of course I did ,I didn't want to say any thing on TV."
Lor:"Thanks a lot."
Ern:" Don't use that small whisk , use this large one ."
Lor:" This one works much better."
Suddenly , Lor's expression changes. She throws the small whisk down and grabs and even smaller one.
The camera dollies in to get a closeup oh her hand ,that whisk must be hitting 20,000 r.p.m..
It's going so fast all we see is a rotating blur. She is whisking so fast the egg is splattering all over the counter and backsplash.
Ern is shocked, quickly grabs a towel,wets it and proceeds to wipe up the egg splatter before it sets.
Lor has whisks with such speed there is no egg left in the bowl.
Angrily she slams the bowl and whisk down and stomps off into the bedroom. Door slams , wham , lock clicks.
Ern:"Well, as soon as I get this mess cleaned up , I guess it's the couch for me. I wonder how Slo's doing ?"
Mark
Yikes, Mark, what kind of women do you know? :)
But I have never gained so much insight in to the female mind as I have on this site.
I almost have material enough to finish my book "The Intricate Workings of the Female Mind".
You all will be featured in it.
Regarding Omar ,after his problem was solved ,things were fine until he forgave his mother which incensed Zully.
I remember more than one bedroom scene where he reached out to her and she rebuffed him. He had this pained, confused look on his face.
Greta comes on to him ,he's flattered, figured it was just an office flirtation , he could handle it.
But Greta has other ideas and things get out of control.
Just an observation.
Mark
I think I have learned something about the workings of the female mind from reading here too:
Today's re-cap is a very good example of a sort of close attention to emotional detail. An observation of things like small looks and reactions and what they mean emotionally that escape me, (maybe because I'm cooking) but when I read them here, I go, "oh yeah, that's right, that's what was going on...".
I was married to a woman for awhile, for biographical reasons which I won't go into, but I went into it thinking I was a sensitive guy. I found out in a hurry that I wasn't nearly as sensitive as I had thought.
It's a generalization but I think a lot of us guys are a little emotionally tone deaf compared to you ladies.
Reading a good Telenovela re-cap is kind of like music appreciation, learning to hear the various instruments in the orchestra that might have just washed over before!
Here's my take. Yes, couples fight. They sleep apart sometimes. They make up. The marriage goes through good times, bad times and periods of boredom. There are times they wish they had never married each other. Times they wish they'd never had children.
These are feelings. And feelings change. From one day to the next. From one moment to the next, sometimes.
Marriage and fidelity is about a decision and a commitment.
Fidelity is not about "feeling". It's about honoring your commitment to another person, taking your promise seriously.
The marriage contract stipulates for "better or for worse". It doesn't say "for when I feel like it", "for when no one else attractive is coming on to me" or "for when I want to feel young again" or "for when the marriage is still fun and games".
Honoring your word to another person is a question of integrity. Omar gave his word to Zulema but he is not, alas, a man of integrity. A few weeks of a chilled relationship is reason to be unfaithful? I think not. Perhaps he should have made more of an attempt to understand Zulema's continuing bitterness instead of jumping into someone else's bed. Just sayin'.
For an interesting discussion on what takes the steam out of marriages though, a book by Willard Harley (a Christian marriage counselor) Love Busters, is really interesting. It analyzes all the ways we take away from our love accounts and all the ways we can put back into them.
However, right now I'd say Omar is bankrupt!
For what it is worth, all the recappers are busy people, and give up considerable time each week to volunteer to do this. Some have done this way longer than I have and they deserve lots of kudos. My hat is off to my team members, who are awesome!
Thanks to all of you for such wonderful comments today--both the pros and the cons! I've enjoyed reading them all today! For you guys (Mark, Randy sea), the male perspective is terrific and Mark, your fantasy scenarios were great for a chuckle!
Jeanne
By the way, I think JudyB is off the hook for Tuesday night. According to my Tivo QE will be preempted by election night. I'm on the west coast, I wonder if it's the same all over the US?
But in previous years, the car survey always correctly predicted the winner. Scary.
Just so you know, I drive a 94 Honda!
And let me add to the chorus...the viewpoint of our male readers is refreshing and informative and we love you all!
Judyb, I loved your post on the Omar topic, beautifully put. This issue pushes one of my hot buttons and I have a problem expressing my opinion graciously. I’m always amused with myself when telenovelas elicit such strong reactions in me. This telenovela dealt with the damage of infidelity earlier with Paula. This must be a hot button for one of the writers too!
And yes, thanks to the male readers for your enlightening comments!
JudyB, we drive a 1995 Honda--station wagon! (Of course the school car I use is a little more upscale, but the Honda is our baby).
Jeanne
Jeanne
My MSWindows Media DVR TV Scheduler does NOT have either QE or FELS scheduled to record on election night, although Yahoo has it listed. I trust my DVR scheduling service. It never gets it wrong. (Why they always manage to get the correct listing info and msn/yahoo never seem to is beyond my mortal abilities to fathom.
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As for the re-Gretable Omar predicament as a topic of discussion, well it is what it is, guys and gals. I threw a nuclear bomb out there and can't say I don't enjoy sifting through the fallout. ; ? } Didn't say I wasn't disappointed in him, simply that I was sensitive to the conflict these two characters were feeling - and kudos to the writers for bringing it home to us because that is the essence of a good storyline IMHO. Maybe it's because life experience has gotten me and mine too close to the flame in times past it has struck a nerve. The old saw(s) "walk a mile in my shoes" and "if the shoe was on the other foot" comes to mind. Who knows what we might actually do and think and say if it happened to us? How "noble" or "weak" would we turn out to be? Why is Diana's being married to a wife-beating misogynist or Rossi being married to a pugnacious alcoholic wastrel qualify them for divorce but Omar's needs are to be considered insignificant and so he must sacrifice himself and die a little more inside everyday till he ultimately goes insane or literally commits suicide or worse, a murder/suicide? Just throwing it out there for y'all to chew on.......
Jeanne
At that point, many would say the marriage was not salvagable, and even Omar's breaking up with Greta wouldn't prevent future problems. If he never told Zulema, he'd always have the guilt (as would Lorena), and if Omar did tell, could Zulema ever trust him again?
So maybe it's better that Omar goes with Greta, and everything is out in the open. Not good, but you can't erase what he did anyway.
Also, I have heard of a number of true life cases of spouses of coma victims, or terminally ill patients, having affairs. Four months doesn't seem long enough, but what if the coma lasts four years?
In other words, Omar was bad, but once he actually slept with Greta (which was very disappointing to me), the rest really isn't much worse.
started an affair with Greta (or anyone else for that matter) if Greta hadn't persued him so relentlessly? Or if Zulema were ill but not in a coma, do you think he would have gone to live with Greta?
It seems less like the marriage was bad (although yes it was going through a bumpy time as all marriages do)than Omar was too weak and needy to keep his commitment. I totally agree with JudyB. about marriage having its ups and downs and the importance of keeping the commitment to work problems through...
NJ Sue
Then he lied to Zule and Lorena, to their faces, stopping only when Lorena revealed that she'd seen him. Then he went back to Zule only out of guilt and pity (also disrespectful, in my opinion).
I'm actually going to give him a pass on dumping her after she went into the coma, not because I thought it was a nice thing for him to do, but because it was actually the first honest thing he had done in months and now his family can start getting over it instead of worrying about his odd behavior.
Jeanne, thank you for pointing out that Santiago stayed in Mexico when Fafy & Co went to Australia. I totally failed to put those pieces together. Santi is only a local Friend of Fafy, I guess, and not part of the entourage.
And Mark, Randy Sea and Hombre de Misterio and of course our Dorado Dave: your comments and insights are priceless. I think all the smart women on this blog really value your contributions. Some of you should go Ferro on us and try recapping, its is guaranteed to drive Spanish into your head faster and deeper than almost any other activity.
Mark, randy, hombre: I find your responses just as insightful. Keep 'em coming, please!
I am enjoying all the ladies' input as well. --As for Omar, I really think his marriage was over before he met Greta. I remember him thinking to himself the first time he'd done the deed with her that he didn't need the Viagra with her, but he did with Zulema. Maybe he was a coward or maybe he just was not "knowledgeable" enough to put his true feelings into words at the right time before tragedy struck. Let's not forget that that "tragedy" was not an accident, either like they all believe. If Bruto and Snara hadn't tried to kill her, Zulema would be back on track to a new self-image and a new start in her marriage. Maybe Omar had been lying to Zulema the whole time about her "unattractive" weight problem and just couldn't bring himself to admit it to her or himself. It was easier to politely call her " Mí Gordita" and bury the other psychological/emotional/physical needs under the proverbial bushel. Greta is not exactly Twiggy by U.S. standards, but she hasn't let herself go, either. I don't mean to offenc, but IMHO counselling can only go so far. Counselling and reasoning --religious or otherwise-- cannot make up for truly deep-seated physical/psychological needs and desires. (Take sex offenders, as a case in point, whose BJS recidivism rate is close to 50%. They don't change to any reasonable degree.) I can appreciate the multitudinous scholarly self-help books that have been written for all the proper reasons for the average person. My limited experience suggests those/it work/s by guilt-association and/or submitting to harsh, deprivational, self-discipline techniques whose results are perhaps socially desirable but perhaps not always correct. Again, just my unschooled and unprofessional opinions.
The friendship part of our marriage is what has gotten us through the difficulties we’ve faced so far, not being turned on by each other. That doesn’t mean I should feel free to let myself go. But I also don’t think I’m asking for him to cheat on me if I gain weight or if I am not in the mood once or twice.
I certainly respect the validity of opposing views – the important thing is probably that both partners are on the same page. I just kind of doubt Zulema is on the same page as Omar in this, but I guess we’ll see.
While I can appreciate that Omar/Zulema's marriage was going through a winter period and Zulema was very bitter about Omar forgiving his mother, Omar having an affair has really been disturbing. It's such a dramatic change for his character. Nevertheless, it has been fascinating watch for fall out from this decision and to see our collective group reaction to it. Though we come from different backgrounds and not all of us agree on this scenario, most of us do feel very strongly about this storyline (technically storylines).
Being able to have these type of discussions is what makes this blog so fun.
All I know is that, even though I have been married 25 years (and married late at 30!), my hubby and I have our parents as inspiration and I guess that's why we take our vows seriously. His parents were married 51 years before his mom passed away, and my parents celebrated their 60th in April. They have been through good times and bad times and their marriages only got stronger.
Nobody said it was going to be easy...it takes both of you to make a marriage truly work. You don't just give up if things don't go as planned. It really is for better and for worse!!! Also just saying!
Mark, I also cracked up at your fantasy scenarios, too!!:)
Thrilled that Val is back.
I think Omar has deteriorated to the point of no return.
I really can't add anything to what the commenters have said so eloquently: "Regarding Greta's happiness, I've always been perplexed how someone could be truly happy when their happiness depends on someone else's unhappiness (Cap'n Sylvia).
Omar's "...dishonesty and 'I deserve to be happy' spiels make me want to barf" (Rhonda from St. Louis). "Marriage and fidelity is about a decision and a commitment. Fidelity is not about 'feeling'. It's about honoring your commitment to another person, taking your promise seriously". (judyb). "Omar should have gone with the candy apple-red Jaguar (Susanlynn).
Dreading seeing Zulema being told that in addition to everything else she's suffered, she's woken up to the news that she's also lost her husband. Diana in MA
What's a guy supposed to do?
He professed his love and was willing to marry and accept Diana's baby as his own . She falls for Bruto's line and marries him.
She divorces him, Vasco understand her decision, again willing to marry her.
She puts him off again with "I need time."
Is he supposed to just sit around waiting till she is in the proper frame of mind ?
You get put off enough times you start to figure this is never going to come to pass. He's still hoping but , a cute girl like Patti comes along shows interest in him and his ecology thing , who came blame for seeking happiness?
Look at Lor , falls for Slo,he dumps her , shortly after falls for Ern, dumps Ern , falls for Slo , joins Ern on the TV show looks at him like gee , do I want dump Slo and fall in love with him ? Now there is an airhead. I used to like her , no more.
Course got to remember it's only a Soap Opera that mercifully has an ending.
When I was in elementary school I would come home for lunch.
My mother would listen to "Stella Dallas" , a soap . I didn't pay much attention but I remember the theme song "The Red River Valley"
At the end of every episode the announcer would say "Will Stella find happiness and live happily in the valley ever after ?"
To this day I don't know the answer and I am still trying to set my mind at ease .
So please If any of you have any info I would be eternally grateful
if you let me know.
By my best recollection , she had beautiful red hair , average height, nice build and lived in the Valley.
Oh! , by the way her current age should be around 98 +. Thanks!
Mark
My advice to her would have been to get the hell out of the valley since it was obviously filled with crazy soap opera people.
Lots of very interesting comments here today. Just to throw in my opinion: I think not every marriage needs to be saved; sometimes ending it would be better. However, I think people shouldn't get into a new intimate relationship until the marriage is actually, officially over. Sneaking around is skeezy, and I don't think mad lust in the new relationship or lack thereof in the old one makes it okay. Omar is SO dead to me.
BTW, I made a few new T-shirt designs. sites.google.com/site/jvllightbox
I'll just have to use my imagination I guess!
JudyB, I just posted pdfs of the graphics, not shown on actual shirts. One of the files was the wrong type; I fixed that.
Ferro, you crack me up. I will pray Zulema doesn't have amnesia!
I have now been seeing promotions for "Las Tontas No Van al Cielo" so it looks like that will be following QE. Has anyone heard whether it is good?
Tontas has been advertised here in Univision New Mexico since sometime last Thursday I think, and certainly on Friday they listed it several times. Can't wait to hear if it is any good.
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