Caray, Caray!

Cynthia, yes: “Bleh! Like flirting with Ted Buddy.” You have me laughing this a.m.. Thanks for the outstanding recap, screen caps and commentary.

I think one of the many strong points of this novela has been how well they handle the kids’ plots and how many of the portrayals ring true. Last night we went from Sebas trying to hide the stench of his fetid feet to Julio liking having Susana for a new mother to Temo with the tissue stuck up one nostril after the nosebleed. Then there was Yolo and her undying irrational wish that her parents be back together again.

Cynthia’s title said it all. Pancho did the right thing.

All in all, it was a very satisfying episode.
 

Superb Cynthia. Terrific screen shots.

So many exceptional lines. “[Just wait a few years honey, when you have a guy who dumps you for another woman and see how badly you want to forget about him.]” was perfect and a sage admonition.

Julio’s admittance he has a “new mother”. My eyes misted at the stoic child’s words.
I enjoyed Susana’s continuing bonding with Temo and Julio. I could watch that all night. Sweet and pure affection blossoming. Also enjoyed Dr. Carlos blundering around, under the lovely Dani’s spell. Dani’s time with the children was soothing. Many lovely moments to savor.

Jarifa, astute comment about Yolo. Yes, the children's plights are portrayed very realistically. And, like everyone else here, all are perfectly cast.

“Audi tells Polita that he has tried to do the right thing and now he can leave with a clear conscience”. If he thinks that atones for everything he is done, he is sadly mistaken. “I’m sorry” needs to be followed by a changed and vastly improved persona.

Happy Pancho stood up to the investor. I needed my beanie to accept he changed his mind so quickly but…

Perhaps I’ve just been watching TNs for too long but two things struck me. “Temo gets a nosebleed”. Surely this is significant? The second was Neto running into Audi on his way in. There was a split second where I thought, he is Audi’s son. Was there anything of importance that he sat next to Ari at the table??

Great title Cynthia. Thank you so much!

Diana
 

Cynthia: I hope Karma hits Yolo very BIGLY.
 

Diana, you and me both wondering about the nosebleed having significance and Audi maybe being Neto’s father. Here is hoping that the writers are merely playing with the viewers. With the rapidity of the pacing, who knows what calamities they could still fit in?
 

Wow, you were in fire with this one Cynthia. Your "red" comments just jumped off the page and that screen shot of Susana hugging Pancho was so beautiful. Just a well-crafted, wonderful recap.

Like Jarifa, my favorite was :

They do some phone flirting. [Bleh! Like flirting with Ted Bundy]

Yolo continues to be a gigantic thorn in everyone's side, including ours! But it is typical that daughters resent Dad finding a new woman far more than sons, who are usually like, "Well she makes him happy so it's okay." I've seen this play out so many times in divorce aftermaths. Guys often seem as ready to move on as their fathers.

Thanks Cynthia. Glad that the macho crisis was resolved quickly. Now on to the next problem and/or PSA!
 

Thank you,Cynthia.

Wow,, Diana and Jarifa, I did not see that foreshadowing .I

Judyb...more wise words. You have no idea how much I appreciate your comments each day. Yes, men and sons seem able to move on to a new relationship more easily and faster than women and girls. I know of a romance that was broken off because the daughter did not approve. And my cousin and my friend's son both remarried about a year after their wives died. I once read that men tend to deal with a death of divorce and then close the door and move on. It seems that is much harder for women to do ....or something they never do. My friend got divorced about 20 years ago . Her ex remarried right away (cheater) , but she is still single. My sister's husband died 30 years ago, and she never remarried.


 

Thanks everyone. I have no idea what the significance of Temo's nosebleed was. The last time I saw a nosebleed on a TN (not caused by a fist fight) was on "Enamorandome do Ramon". In that one, "Porfirio" started getting nosebleeds and was not feeling well. He finally went to the doctor and found out he had leukemia and died toward the end of the series. I hope this is not the case with Temo.

I think the reason a lot of men remarry so quickly after a divorce or widowhood is that they are so darn lonely. I know of two professors in their 60s who just lost their wives last year after a long illness. Well they are both engaged to be married for this year! I don't think women feel that lonely after losing a spouse. When my father in law passed away, my mother in law said right away she would not want another husband. Even my mother said that after my father passed. Even with younger women who are divorced or widowed, I don't see them in any hurry to remarry.

I think the reason Yolo still holds on to her mother returning is a fantasy. I had a foster child (well she wasn't a child any longer, but a grown 19 year old in college) who kept dreaming that her mother would no longer be an addict and that her mother and father would get back together and they would be a real family again. And I can't figure out why someone like Yolo would even glance twice at Guido.


 

JudyB, thank you when you said: "Wow, you were in fire with this one Cynthia. Your "red" comments just jumped off the page and that screen shot of Susana hugging Pancho was so beautiful. Just a well-crafted, wonderful recap."

Actually, last night I wasn't feeling very well. It was one of those days when I thought I might be coming down with something, so I was drinking hot tea last night as I watched and wrote. I'm surprised it came out as good as you said it did. This morning I woke up and there is no way I can go to work with this horrible sore throat and laryngitis. I don't want to get everyone else sick. Thank you again.

 

I have to agree that the portrayal of every situation is quite realistic but solved too quickly. Yolo is acting like any superficial privileged girl would. Maybe the reason she doesn't seem to listen to anyone other than Guido is because Guido treats her like an equal while everyone else just talks down to her. Yes her behavior merrits that but after the "scolding" her father hasn't really tried to get through to her and broken her down. He gives up to quickly. I like him with Grecia but its normal of her wanting her mother back. Neto needs to really explain to her why her mother left instead of trying to protect her all the time.

P.S
(Also I find it a little sick and disturbing for a commenter on here to wish the death of a child regardless of her attitude. No rebellious teenager deserves to get murdered and that thought coming from a supposed mature adult is very dark)
 

Cynthia, thanks for another excellent recap.

"Dr. Carlos is skulking around the Córsega building trying to leave a gift for Daniela and he’s very nervous." There do seem to be quite a few oddball doctors in Oaxaca. Dr Carlos should take it a little slower, Dani just lost her husband recently. She might even feel guilty if she started seeing someone else so soon. Sometimes we need to wait a while before we can give ourselves permission to move on. Just a part of being human.

"Like flirting with Ted Bundy" Yeah. While I don't approve of Guido and Yolo in any way, I have to admit that his interest in her is about the only decent human emotion he has had, perhaps in his entire life.

andy
 

Cynthia, so sorry that you are down with a horrible sore throat and laryngitis (my husband is too). But sometimes I think we do our best work when we are struggling to overcome a personal challenge--whether it be our health or our heartbreak.

Several years ago, I remember coming home late one evening after the funeral of a friend. I had to write a recap and just didn't know how I was going to do it. But the necessity of focusing on something besides myself actually turned out to be a small moment of reprieve from my sadness and desolation.

But sending you love, prayers and Susanlynn Good Vibes (((((())))))that you will feel better soon.
 

Cynthia, JudyB's comments reminded me I wanted to say something about your illness. First, I hope you feel much better soonest. Second, I agree with you that it's better for everybody when people with the flu or whatever just stay home for a while. Better for them and better for their coworkers who then have one less chance to become infected themselves.

It's not always possible, but when it is it's better for everybody.

:-)

andy
 

Judy: I just hope Karma (particularly Guido) hits Yolo BIGLY!
 

Cynthia, well, I am very lonely, but Nobody could ever replace my soulmate. I try to spend time with family and friends, but I can't imagine dating or marrying anyone else . Perhaps men can close the door on their old lives and move on. Perhaps they can ccompartmentslize their feelings. I can't imagine ever letting go of the sweetest man I ever knew. I guess my life from now on will revolve around my family and girlfriends. I loved my life with my husband. I guess the unhappiness you feel after losing a spouse is proportionate to the happiness you felt with that spouse.
 

Cynthia, I'm sorry you are ill and hope you feel better soon. Staying home was very thoughtful to others...

Susanlynn, I hope you find peace for your heartache...sometimes as much as we want to heal, the only soothing balm is time.

My experience is that women are very resilient and forge ahead on their own. Love lingers and if you've had the best, there is no replacement.

Diana
 

C.S. Lewis said something very similar, Susanlynn, after the loss of his beloved wife. He came to marriage late, but he was crazy about her. She brought joy and life to an intellectual, academic long-time bachelor. And so he mused that the grief now is the price of the happiness then.

But still, we all wish that you could have had your dear husband for so many more years. There was a charming couple in a nursing home here who had twin beds in their room but always went to sleep holding hands. I think all of us dreamed of having a marriage like that. And you did, for many years. But I see Hub, smiling and at peace, waiting for you in the next life with his arms outstretched, ready to enfold you once again.
 

Cynthia: Praying for a speedy recovery.
 

Susanlynn, I can only imagine how it feels to lose your husband and lifetime soulmate. It is rare to have such a wonderful marriage and you are one of the very blessed women to have had that. Not everyone has that kind of solid and loving relationship. Yes, that loneliness can be very painful and since I am not in your shoes, I can only imagine how you are feeling.

As I said earlier, it seems that some men move on very quickly after their spouse's death. I don't know if it is only the loneliness that causes them to jump into marriage within a year. Perhaps they are unable to thrive very well on their own and need to be with someone to soothe the pain of losing their previous wife. But I totally understand how you at this stage in your life can't imagine "replacing" your precious husband.

Judy B: Are you a C.S. Lewis fan? I love his books. I have a lot of his theology books and the Narnia series.

Thank you all for your wishes for my recovery. I am already starting to feel better. But last night, my throat felt almost as sore as when I've had strep throat. And the laryngitis seems to be lifting because can now use my voice and I couldn't talk at all this morning when I got up.
 

Judyb...I pray your words go from your lips to God's ears. I have two very dear friends...one who went to school with hub and me and one who taught with me and was part of our group of married couples. I try to see each of them once a week . They both keep telling me that hub would not want me to be so lost and sad....but i am.
 

Yes, Cynthia...I am a big C.S. Lewis fan. The Screwtape Letters, A Grief Exposed, Mere Christianity and of course the Narnia books which I read to my children. Reading him is like spending time with a very wise and learned friend. You find yourself saying "Yes, yes, exactly..." and yet you were never able to formulate it with quite that clarity and eloquence. No better bedside reading or comfort during times of stress. A master.

Susanlynn, of course you are feeling lost and sad. How could you not? There is no instantaneous healing from such a loss and no one should pressure you to heal any faster than you are doing. Grief is highly personal and comparisons never apply. And there's a reason why the minimum grieving time is a year or two before one is expected to "rejoin society".

It's good that you're spending time with friends, but again, respect your grief and give yourself all the time that you need. Hub was and is irreplaceable. But what a gift you had while he was here! You won the lottery with this fella. And he won it with you.
 

Judy B: I think I will download some C.S. Lewis book on my Audible account. C.S. Lewis does make bedtime reading and also listening.