Saturday, June 13, 2015
Weekend Discussion: Love -- Reality or Poetic Delusion?
I actually know a few people who don't think love exists at all. Some of them had highly toxic parents and a couple of them have had disappointing love lives (one I suspect never had one). A few other people I know are so confounded by differences between men and women they refuse to believe it is possible to understand the other at all. It's possible that they are too lazy to try.
Sometimes I even wonder about us, especially when someone writes "They are so in lurrrrve" or similar. That looks either sarcastic or incredulous.
We can never discount the power of attraction; Telenovelas, movies, opera, etc., all capitalize on it. However, I believe that the next essential element in love is honest communication, which goes both ways. It is the only way that a relationship of equals can work. One-way communication works for a while with subordinate beings such as children and pets, but that needs to change over time.
Some people believe that the only love in the world is between a mother and her children. I refuse to believe that. I know my cats love me; that is only doubted by people who don't appreciate cats. Romantic love is considerably more complex.
Your thoughts, everyone.
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As one of my teachers said " Love till you can and what you can, if not the flesh love the trees. Just don't stop loving"
My hilarious history teacher said " Women love bringing problems in our house but without problems all would cease to exist"
I've learned that some of that pain is caused by selfness,some people just want to take take take and never giving back , at least not the way THEY think it should be given back to them.
Theres something I've learned about love, it doesn't work well with selfishness. But delt with in the right way, it could last forever through anything. Anybody thats Blessed to find it with the right person it could last throughout eternity. everybody has a different take on love that's mine I'm still learning though as I think everybody else is too. I'm happy for all whose been blessed to have it in their life. It's priceless. Hold on to it.
some people might say I'm living in a fantasy world, no the fantasy is thinking that you can live without it.
It really does make the world go around. But your heart has to be open to it.
Telenovelsa are a perfect place to explore and discuss love. Usually in the span of a few months, we see the extremes across a broad spectrum: "true" love, unrequited love, romantic, paternal (maternal), fraternal (sororal), perverse. We see all the ways that love can be twisted into something else entirely and used to manipulate with malevolent intent.
Today, in the US, I'd like to think most people view romantic love as a meeting of minds coupled with a desire for intimacy, physical and otherwise. I think we strive for an equal effort from the parties involved and like to see this declared with words and supported by actions. In the very best novelas, imo, there's a demonstration of that effort. Not just the love and the suffering when the protagonists are apart, but work on both sides to get the relationship back together. There are sacrifices made on both ends to be together. I think that's what makes it a fairy tale love to me, the happy ever after is both earned and granted.
I think that it is hard to find romantic love if you do not believe in it. You have to believe it to achieve it, and you have to be lucky enough to have the right person cross your path.
Hellashelle: loved this: "the happy ever after is both earned and granted."
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