Monday, January 20, 2014
Lo Que La Vida Me Robó Lunes 1/20/14 #50
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Of course, it was!!! Beautifully written, Urban. Simply beautifully written!
Every single scene is packed with info and new turns of events. I have never seen anything like it. Granted, I have not seen many TN, but this is mind boggling!!!
So many questions. So many thoughts on my mind, but my first question is this:
What makes a mother hate a daughter? Hate is a powerful word, but this is the only word that comes to mind when I see how Graceless treats Montserrat.
What in the world makes a mother hate and despise her own child?
Fatima
Maria and Graciela are a couple of evil sluts. Nimble Maria makes some lemonade from the bitterness of her banishment (and thankfully, Alejandro had the backbone to order it).
Graciela may cover her black heart with all manner of fluff and glitz, but it's a good thing for Monserrat to learn the truth.
Dimwit was finally pushed to a decision: hot stable, shoveling and falling in the manure, and suffering Macario's jibes and laughter --or-- Josefina, who loves him and brings him cold orange juice to soothe his trials. Easy decision for him--take the easy way out. Hope to see him snared and tormented by her love.
Do we think that María has burned her bridges with Alejandro, regardless of what happens with Montserrat? I hope so.
Oh Dim. How romantic. Proposing marriage while covered by the very same thing he is full of.
It was chilling to hear Ale say that he never forgives a traitor or a liar especially if they are someone he trusts/close to him. I think we all know where that could end up.
BM just kept showing up in places she wasn't expected. I am sure we haven't seen the last of her but at least she is off the hacienda.
Making sure he was really covered in manure, Dimitri asked Fina to marry him. Sort of like making sure he was dragging her down into the manure with him. Yuck! I did enjoy Carlota telling Graciela she was responsible for the creation of that "patan" Dimitri.
Slaps all around tonight! Montse got to be both the slapper and the slapped. I also couldn't stand her mother poking her in the head and covering her mouth. Graciela puts Montse in an untenable position marrying her off and then criticizes her for the problems that resulted with JL. What a beast she is! I am glad Montse knows the truth about her. That was the only good thing BM did do.
Another satisfying episode.
Jarifa
What worries me even more is, as Jarifa pointed out, Alejo's comment re not forgiving traitors/liars that have been close to him.
Ale is speaking in absolutes. There are no absolutes. Everything is relative.
Fatima
[NM slams fist down on table for emphasis. Ouch.]
I guess he has his emotional/philosophical path cut out for him over the next 100 episodes.
Thanks so much for this fantastic recap. I just love the way you tell this tale.
Yay! BM is gone for the time being. Novelamaven, I don't think she has burned her bridges. She is so besotted with Ale, I'm sure she'll think of something. Just speculation, not a spoiler.
I can't stand Gracie either, the nerve of that woman. She is a ho! No question. I so dislike the way she treats Monse, as some bargaining chip for sale to the highest bidder and the constant slapping, but Monse has class, something Gracie doesn't have. I hope Monse remembers her crassness for the next time she wants some dinero!
I was laughing so hard at Dimwit falling in the manure, too funny. And he is full of it, lol. He didn't even wipe his hands when he took Fina's and asked her to marry him. Maybe she'll turn him down, hmmmmm..........
I too thought Tomas was thinking more in the lines of a duel, I mentioned that weeks ago. I can't wait to see what Tomas thinks, when he gets to the hacienda and sees Dimwit.
It was good to see Esme again with Refugio. He was looking like a good bodyguard, lol. So Esme owns that club? Now that is interesting.
I don't like Gracie knowing that JL was at the hacienda, when she thought he was dead. She thinks so little of her daughter I wouldn't put it past her to spill. She's so evil!
It is Gracie's fault Dimwit turned out the way he did, and she's soooo insulted! She knows it's right, what Monse and Tia told her, so now she'll have to deal. Oh, and those shoes, really?????? Hideous!
I too didn't like Ale saying he won't forget or forgive "traitors". Fatima you are right there are no absolutes, but the man is so stubborn. I am not liking these hovering anvils.
Can't wait for manana to find out what happens next!
This was an excellent recap and I cannot believe you did screen shots! Congratulations on mastering what I take to be a complicated and difficult process. Your choice of images was just great.
I am so glad Malria is gone but I heard Ale say a couple of ominous things tonight that bode ill for he and Montserrat. Both os them were marked by the absolute statements that our rigid and humorless Alejandro is famous for and that Novela Maven and others have already mentioned. First:
"He intoned that she, Maria, was therefore the only liar, shoving her back so she fell on the edge of the bed. She rose and he prevented her attempt at touching him again."
Now Maria is all bad, right Ale? But Ale has the evidence of his own ears and eyes of Maria's perfidy—she tried to set him up with Montserrat IN THE MOMENT she was caught.
The second scene has already been mentioned—when Ale swears never to forgive Maria's betrayal. Then Montserrat does her manipulative thing—'Hey, Ale, you have to promise you will never doubt my love again, etc.'— and they seal it with a sexy kiss. Sometimes we know that Montse is Graciela's daughter. She is pretty skilled at manipulation and deception. Arguably these could have developed as survival skills in her dysfunctional family).
In Buddhist silent retreats very low-toned gongs are often used to call people to meditation and prayer, just as bells toll the offices in a Catholic monastery. I have often used a very old Japanese gong for this purpose. The sound is so low and so penetrating that—once we are out of retreat and can speak again—we jokingly call the gong of doom, especially when it is sounded at 5:15 AM.
I thought I heard a 'gong of doom' announcing Montserrat's upcoming fate and judgment by Alejandro. Bless his heart, he is going to have every right to be mad. NOBODY but she and Jose Luis know that she was faithful to Ale, and each of those two has lied about so many things that others will not believe them. Ale himself has been involved in multiple deceptions, including the cover up of a homicide, but somehow I do not think he will remember that in the critical moments.
Gong!
Suffering ahead...
Thanks again, Urban. Great job.
Elna June
PS: I am absolutely loving this show. It has become one of my all-time favs—at least for these first 50 capitulos.
What a way you have with words. Thank you for such a well thought out and informative recap. And I love the fan!
"However, proving that there is no honor whatsoever among thieves and whores, Dimwit slyly announced that Maria and Adolfo did more than talk."
"Adolfo, undeterred by his comparative poverty, was imbibing some wine in bed with a dark-haired wench of uncertain profession..."
These were only two among the vast amount of memorable lines from your recap.
I am glad that Montse said something when she saw BM and Ale in the shower. She could have left the room, but she reacted like any jealous wife would. I just wish she had said "Get your paws off my man Bitch!" I was ecstatic when Ale told BM to leave. YES! He didn't believe anything she said, and stayed firm with her. He had a look in his eye of asco and anger. It was like he could not believe she was the same person he had grown up with. But the b**ch got busted, and she has no one to blame but herself. At last she got kicked to the curb, where she belongs. And after everything she said and did, BM had the avocadoes to tell Ale that if he "tried her" she had no doubt that Ale wouldn't want any other woman that wasn't her. WHAT! QUE! DIOS MIO! She really thinks that she's all that AND a bag of chips! NOT!
BM is just plain evil. Why did she lie and tell Macario that Dominga had been Juvie's lover? What did Mac and Dominga ever do to her to provoke such hatred? She is simply a Mean Vengeful Slut! NEXT!
Loved the scene of Dimi shoveling manure. It looked like he was really gonna puke when he fell in it! HA! And I loved the change in attitude towards Fina. Calling her Mi Amor, and with a little grin on his face when he asked her to marry him. It was comical and fun to watch.
Much more to say, but will check in later.
UA: On a side note, I debated whether or not to mention this, but here it goes. When I read your recap I noticed that you said Ale believed BM when she said she had not stolen the money Rosario found in her room and had nothing to do with Adolfo. But what I heard, after Dimi let everyone know that BM and Adolfo, had not only stolen the money, but would spend a lot of time locked in his room, was BM say "No le creas Alejandro, te juro que esta diciendo puras mentiras" (Don't believe him Alejandro, I swear he is saying pure lies, or nothing but lies) Ale said "No Maria, creo que dice la verdad." (No Maria, I think he's (Dimi) telling the truth) ['Creo que' meaning, 'yo creo que el'] So Ale was saying that he believed Dimi was telling the truth. He then gave BM the box and told her she was going to need it. The Spanish language can be confusing at times.
Off to bed...hasta pronto!
Went back to check the DVR, and to be exact Ale said "No Maria, yo creo que esta diciendo la verdad" (No Maria, I think he's[Dimi] telling the truth). Same translation.
As Anon 11:09 pm stated, how Gracie keeps physically abusing her daughter is just more than disturbing. I look forward to the day when Monse stops her from ANY physical and verbal abuse.
Fatima, good question about mothers hating daughters. TNs seem to enjoy have bad mothers as villains. Most are controlling or smothering but the ones who are abusive are the worst.
The writers have been dangling the JL anvil for quite a while. I think tomorrow it actually drops based on our preview scenes but I'm not holding my breath.
I was biting my lip when Monserrat entered the bathroom, hoping she would shout at someone. I would have preferred her to have shouted at Maria while simultaneously grabbing her by the hair and dragging her out but at least she got there before something irretrievable could have happened.
As to the answer to the ultimate question raised by this episode, I guess we will have to wait. My best guess right now is that Graceless hates her daughter because she is young, beautiful, and has opportunities open to her that she never had.
We know nothing about Graceless' parents; since they have never been mentioned it's a reasonable assumption that they're dead and unless there will be a flashback or a dream sequence we will never see them. Since Dimwit is 28 years old we can safely assume that Graceless must be at least 47 (older than the actress) so we can nix the idea that Monserrat had her menarche when Graceless was entering menopause (unless she had an abnormally early one). Trust me; that is more than enough to cause envious conflict.
Her intrusive touching is exactly like that of Rosario Pedraza of Mi Pecado, so perhaps the director thought it effective. All I can say is that Monserrat should not permit it and I'm hoping that the way that scene ended means that she will return the slap in a future episode.
Wow, Urban, your usual elegant rendering of the action, accompanied by wonderful photos--just fabulous. Having struggled with posting photos along with recap myself, I am truly blown away.
Favorite line, of course is "dark-haired wench of uncertain profession". But I also loved:
"Road into Town: Macario, who never allowed his opinion to go unheard,..."
That's our Macario. He's fast becoming my favorite character.
Looking forward to watching this later in the day, but couldn't resist reading your recap before heading off to work. Simply splendid.
Unless, of course, Alejandro hadn't already cut that off when Monserrat told him to early in the story in which case Graceless would have nothing to lose and Monserrat's misery to gain.
People who are miserable like to drag others down into it.
The story is hitting the fan. OUCH!
Elna June-the gong is really going off, isn't it? The advances look grim.
Had to laugh at your comment La Paloma, Dimwit's choice, hot manure or Jose; pick one.
I was surprised there were no scenes with Angie and JL. It looks bad for JL!
"and while Maria, in a vainglorious attempt at appearing helpless", "Lady Amelia allowed no such insult to her intelligence, revealing that the matter had been explicitly and vitriolically discussed" and " Not even Livia Augusta could equal her venom" were among my favorites.
Maria has been vanquished but we all suspect albeit temporarily. Enjoyed her being caught and expelled but she did have the last word as she was able to deliver the blow to Monse about her odious mother.
Dimwit finally had enough! Looking forward to seeing the journey of this reluctant bridegroom and his (already)long suffering bride to be.
Fatima, mothers hating their daughters (Gancho, Mi Pecado (also with D. Castro, FELS) occurs all too often. Sometimes the daughters were not their own, were the result of rape, the mother is jealous and/or just that the mother was a terrible person.
Karen, ITA, basta on Graciela's abuse. All of it. I'm glad Monse didn't cower at the fact Graciela now knows JL is alive and what transpired. Sure Graciela has far more skeletons in the closet. Who knows what will fall out next. Did enjoy Monse's sporting the bracelet and sticking it in Graciela's face.
LaPaloma “Nimble Maria makes some lemonade from the bitterness of her banishment (and thankfully, Alejandro had the backbone to order it)” was wonderful!
Elna June, enjoyed your "gong of doom" comment and fear everything you said is true. When everything comes crashing down, Ale's rage and bitterness will be swift. Will he be able to forgive? I suspect it will be a long and difficult road.
UA, lovely fan and amazing recap. Thank you!
Diana
Yola
As for Ale not forgiving lies and betrayal, well he will have to put a lot of people on that non-forgiveness list. Monse, for the JL secret. Padre, for the JL secret and the Rosario secret. Rosario for her own secret. Macario for the Ro secret. JL for his own secret. I'm just saying, there won't be anyone left in his friends and family plan, except Victor, if he doesn't learn to forgive and understand that just because a person holds a secret doesn't mean they were trying to hurt you. Even if they were wrong to do so.
I like that Monse didn't get mad at Ale for keeping it a secret from her that her mother was Ben's lover, and didn't even bring it up with him. She seemed to get that he must have been trying to protect her. Loved how she flashed that bracelet at Gracie. Hate the way Gracie feels free to abuse and belittle Monde.
Although I was happy to see Maria get kicked out, I worry about the trouble she and Addie could cause. I'm sure it wouldn't take much for him to tell her all about JL.
I don't think she ever loved her husband, either. We have no evidence that he was ever anything but a good father to his daughters and a good husband to Gabriela until she cut off the nooky, which may have happened long before the beginning of that story.
BTW, as I watch the episodes (HD picture is so much better than what I saw back during the original broadcast) I am reading the recaps and comments and am pleased to see that others share my opinion of Gabriela as another Bernarda Alba.
Rosario Pedraza's backstory is told to us late in the series. She is a very conflicted woman in a way that Gabriela Elizondo is not. She might have benefitted from seeing a shrink, but probably wouldn't have considered it.
Odd that Alejandro didn't recognize María more immediately rather than returning her kiss for several seconds only to react with surprise when Montserrat shouted out. Maybe he had soap in his nose and mouth as well.
Well everything should be great between the happy couple now that María has been banished, as she most certainly the source of everyone's misery. I'll just meekly point out that María is gone but Deceit hasn't left the building.
Carlos
I don't mind catching episodes where shit hits the fan because I think that confrontation scenes in novelas are just as important as the great love scenes. Which is why I am so peeved that they are frequently omitted from the abridged DVD sets.
Vivi, your list of the deceptions and who is responsible for them points to the need for Alejandro to be more understanding of why lies are told or truths are hidden. Padre Anselmo is the only one on that list who truly gets a pass because he is bound by the seal of the confessional, which Alejandro has the intelligence to understand. However, he will have to go through the forgiveness process with the others one at a time in order to grow into the great man he will be at the end of this tale.
Monserrat will be the toughest one of the lot for him to forgive. However, since we have a contemporary-period story he can always demand a DNA test for assurance that the baby is his.
Many thanks for a wonderful recap! As always, it's a pleasure to read and filled with many lovely details and smart observations.
"Dressed in his usual blue daywear, Lord Alejandro angrily entered, shouting to Macario, who quickly reported for duty."
And re Adolfo: "It must be said in his favor that he did not wish to embarrass his other guest."
These were just two of many favorites for me.
ITA with everyone who is upset about Gracie's physical abuse. Jeez, I want Montserrat to haul off and slap Gracie a good one or at least defend herself. I wonder if its just too much of a no, no in TN-Land for to a child to hit his/her abusive parent back? I'd be curious to know of any of you have seen this before? I don't think I have, but I've only been watching these a short time.
Ale's urge to implacable resentment over any hint of betrayal will come back to haunt them all, I suspect.
Urban Anthropologist, you are the best part of all my Monday mornings.
Carlos
I started out thinking that Dominga was Maria's mother, but I was wrong. Nothing has been said about Maria's mother, either. Old Ben would not have been above cuckolding a male employee, so it is entirely possible that she is Alejandro's half-sister.
Her father wouldn't have known that, either, or he would have been firmer in discouraging her from her pursuit of Alejandro.
Graciela will enjoy every moment of this and I am not looking forward to it. I suspect (NO SPOILER) that she will even encourage Ale in his anger towards Montserrat. I agree that this could foil her own dinero plans, but Graciela is the Serpent Incarnate. The manipulation slips out of the double forked tongue with such ease.
I understand that many novelas have shown mothers hating their daughters, but my question was really directed at real life situations. Does any level of dislike-->hatred mean that a mother has a bona fide psychiatric diagnosis? I can understand the issues with a child born of rape or the other situations that Urban mentioned, but what really makes a mother truly hate a child?
I think I am going to have to read up on this as this TN has provoked some interesting questions.
Carlos, excellent question re Maria/Don Benjamin, but I think that Maria's father would have kept a close eye on her and would have stopped anything like this dead in its tracks.
We are a third of the way through. If the JL anvil falls now, would that be too soon?
Another thought just came to mind. I would be so sad to see Ale "hate" his own child because of his doubts re the child being his. To perpetuate the parent/child hatred theme beyond Graciela's would be too much for me to see.
Fatima
I only saw one full scene last night and a few snippets when switching over from the Sleepy Hollow finale. But what I saw was my two non-favorite femme fatales, Maria and Gravel Gerty. Seeing Maria try to hang all over Ale, yish. Swear I could see the family slime coming over her fingers as she tried to paw his manly being.
As for Monse's "Mother". My God! I'm with Fatima, what could provoke such hatred to her daughter? I'm still of the mind that Dimwit is the spawn of her affair and it will be shown he is Ale's half-bro, but does Mumsy hate her hubby that much she takes it out on Monse? That whole scene was beyond disturbing--well done, but disturbing. There has to be a back story there somewhere.
So Dimwit proposed? Sorry, I missed the messy moment. Lord, how much I wish for Fina to make his life one living hell...you go girl!
Interesting point Carlos about Maria. Forgot they never mentioned Maria's mother. Holy smoker, she'll lose her lunch if she realizes Ale is her bro as well---just one big happy family. Again, there's another back story we need to hear.
So all this talk of trusting and forgetting the past--will it really work when Ale knows the truth? Wish Monse would just fess up herself. Frankly, I don't think even the idea of a DNA test will change the fact she lied all this time. Ale is still going to implode over that. Some of that manure is going to be hitting the fan soon I think.
Daisynjay
Just want to say what a dark episode this was! Montse was really coming off assertive, yes, but exhibiting so much of Graceless' character--whoa! Dim was a butthole as usual. Later!
Lila
I had to read books on these subjects, as did almost all my female friends.
Most narcissistic mothers envy their daughters over anything that provokes envy: Youth, beauty, intelligence, better opportunities, success, and even men. A lot of the insults and criticism directed at their daughters is a smokescreen for their own insecurities. They often project their own worst traits on others so as not to own them themselves.
I could go on for hours about this, but I won't. Suffice to say that I feel for Monserrat as the daughter of a woman who hated me and doted on my worthless (now deceased) brother.
I agree with those who noted Gracie's hatred for her daughter. The scene between the two was hard to watch. I counted three face shoves, one lip press, and a slap. Yikes. You can just see the frustration and hate in those actions. I almost had to wonder if the actresses have a little problem with each other in real life. I found it very hard to watch Monymony just stand there and accept her mother's abuse without even trying to move away. There was something awful about watching that tiny, perfect, doll like face pushed and slapped. You could sense the jealousy that the fading Gracie feels for her beautiful, young daughter. The juxtaposition of the two was telling. There's slim, lovely Monymony with her perfect , subtle makeup and elegant hairdo dressed in a lovely , tailored blouse and skirt next to Gracie who is draped in all kinds of fabric, heavily made up with a bed head Bardot do,...and CFM shoes. Just looking at Monymony must drive Gracie into despair for her own lost youth. I think seeing her bracelet on that slim wrist just lit the powder keg of Gracie's jealousy. I am starting to feel very sorry for Monymony. Having a parent who is supposed to always love and protect you treat you like that must be devastating. Oh, and I hated the way Gracie kept grabbing monymony's belly. It was almost as if she was trying to convey the idea that she would control her baby, too. This actress can really bring the nasty and make you despise her. She was a villain in Pasion, too.
And then, as if it is not bad enough having Gracie as a mother, Malria slithers into monymony's young life. Malria's conversation with Macario was very telling. There was absolutely no reason for her to lie to him about Dominga except that she got pleasure from hurting him. This novela has changed many aspects of Amor Real, so I do not know what will happen with the Malria storyline even though I know what happened to the housekeeper in the earlier version. Also, the mother was not evil in AR , and she never had an affair with the father of her soninlaw. . She was controlling and unlaffectionate and used her daughter to save the family from ruin , but she never hated or abused Matilde.
I also had a good laugh at Dimwit's manure-encrusted proposal. Of course Josefina will give her wrinkle-nosed (the aroma) assent, else how will she mete out the year of misery she has promised? I am going to enjoy Dim's year of anvils as he learns to cope with Team Josefina.
Maria...gone but not forgotten. I'm sure she will rise like pond scum; she obviously has an amazing instinct for survival.
This episode also pointed out a huge difference between Gracie and Amelia. Amelia loves her daughters and clearly puts Angie before all else.
Novela: LOL your comments.
Montsy has certainly matured during these last few episodes. She has worked through her anger about being sold-out by her mother and has actually fallen in love with the right man and out of love with the wrong man.
And, she has also gotten Ale's back to the wall as to her love for him NOW. She knows that Maria and her mother as we later find out will use anything to destroy her. She's got a promise out of him, and he is a man of his word.
Graciela: What a horror! When she slaps, pokes, pinches and points to Montsy, I want to throw hard objects at the TV.
1. The space-bubble invasion factor between Monserrat and Maria
2. Possibly Maria withheld the details of the secret from Adolfo, preferring not to share that particular weapon.
We did not see his reaction to this disclosure, so we don't know whether #2 is speculation or not. Either way, this disclosure to Monserrat hasn't worked the way Maria seemed to have intended it to. It hasn't begun a fight between Monserrat and Alejandro, but it has opened the floodgates between Monserrat and Graceless' hatred of her.
The truly horrible thing about this is that cutting Graceless out of her life could mean that Monserrat may never see her father again.
Sweet of Montse to acknowledge Ale's hurt in losing his childhood friend. Montse needs to make a list of all the people who know about JL (everybody except Lauro?) and realize the gong of doom [thanks, Elna June!] is coming, so why not tell him now in her own words.
How about Tomas and Tia as a couple? They both get straight to the point and take no crap.
Montse needs to have the shower fumigated and remodeled.
Graciela doesn't have to look like she does; a cheap version of Bardot. She could dress so much more nicely and still look like a glam, attractive, and sexy woman, but she is hateful to her innermost core, so it will never happen.
Urban, thank you. I will look up "Borderline Personality disorder" and see what I find. I am sorry that what is happening to Montserrat in this story happened to you in real life. We can all see the immense talent you have. I hope you know how valued you are here. I mean that most sincerely.
Fatima
UA, all we can hope for is that learning of his wife's infidelity doesn't kill Lauro but does open his eyes to her abuse of Monse and he'll divorce her. Then even if Graceless doesn't die, Monse can always visit her loving father unmolested. That's my desire for this plot line.
Maybe she is just downright evil with no psychiatric diagnosis. Does such a thing exist?
Fatima
Lord, I thought Alejandro was NEVER going to get her out of the bedroom, much less out of the house. She was hanging on like a pitbull. Ouf!
Graciela almost seems tame compared to her. Especially after Maria's gratuitous sullying of Dominga's reputation and knife into Macario's heart.
Lauro should NEVER be told of his wife's infidelity. It would hurt him too much. Regardless of whether his physical heart could take it, his emotional heart would be so damaged. There is no cure for that kind of deep betrayal and wounding. The rest of his days would be tainted by so much sorrow and pain. I'm hoping the story doesn't go that way.
UA..it seems to me that nobody escapes having bad stuff happen or someone in his/her life that makes life a challenge. My mother used to say , "That which does not kill us makes us strong." After reading your comments and recaps here at Caraycaray, I sense that you are a very strong person.....a survivor. Life is funny. A good , happy, fulfilling life is the very best revenge. When I think about the person who is making the lives of my family difficult, I say to myself...you will ruin this family over my cold, dead body, Buddy. I am raising my glass of Asti to you, Urban. Rock on. However...the snow IS starting to get me down !
JudyB, amen sistah on your take of that DOG (no apologies here) Maria. The chick is delusional in her thinking. She actually believes that she BELONGS with Ale. Her gratuitous lie to Macario was uncalled for and speaks VOLUMES about the kind of person she is; volumes.
Fatima
Diana
I would also have planted my CFM shoe in her arse and kicked Maria out of the room toute suite.
Oh, wait; Monserrat had already taken them off.
My guess is that the writers were teasing the viewers with the possibility that Maria could talk her way out of this one more time and maybe do it with a little skin. As to why Alejandro didn't recognize her, it's probably because she's about the same height as Monserrat, same length of hair, and he must use some nice expensive soap with a great scent which he hadn't yet rinsed off.
No matter; we know we haven't seen the last of Maria.
What’s with the finger punches? Pedro did it to Nadia, too. I hate that. I know why Mons didn’t react with her own slap—it is her mother. I hope she gets over THAT pretty soon and smacks the s**t out of her.
Nanette
SO relieved Ale threw Malaria out! Now I can enjoy all those tasty snacks in the sunshine on the patio instead of hunkering down in the bunker with indigestion.
Wow, that proposal. So romantic. It's just what every lady dreams of: a mud- and manure- smeared grudging offer of a year of misery. I think Josie would be far better served to chuck Dim aside, get a self-confidence boost and her hair out of her face, and get to work on finding someone worthy of her before she's a year older. But I do look forward to seeing how she will make Dim miserable.
Niecie: Tomas and Tia. I like it. I really want her to find a decent guy.
I think Ale should have known it wasn’t Mons. Everyone kisses differently. The way the mouth fits, etc.
I too echo Diana's sentiment and sending you a virtual hug too. I am so glad you are part of our team : )
Gracie is just jealous of the thing she doesn't have any more that's for sure. She's lost her youth, her money (their financial situation still isn't good) and her amante. She resents Monse for being so very happy, when she thought she had consigned her to a life of unhappiness.
I don't think Gracie ever wanted a daughter. She would have been happy with just Dimwit. I wonder if Monse had been a boy instead of a girl, how she would have treated him. Would she have treated a second son the same way as she does Monse? That being said, I bet if push comes to shove Dimwit would push her under the bus to save himself.
Just how much did Dimwit and Addie swindle from Fina, if as Tomas said it would take him two lifetimes to pay it back? It must have been a heck of a lot.
It is always hard to know what psych diagnosis the writers might have in mind when they create a character. Who knows if the writer for the Graciela is working from personal experience or a technical diagnosis or just an idea, like the idea of 'pure evil'?
From the seat of armchair analysis, I would say that Graciela is a textbook Narcissist of the sociopathic variety. I do not read Borderline here, just pure self-aggrandizement and malevolent self-interest. Sociopathic narcissists are not just 'bad' mothers, they are toxic to all whose lives they touch closely.
Note the emphasis on sociopathology here. These folks are adaptive, slippery and as difficult to nail down in diagnosis as they are in real life.
The rage of a sociopathic narcissist knows no bounds when they feel thwarted. Some are consistently enraged and blaming with one person (a child or partner) or gender or race; some are equal opportunity haters.
But hating is really a side effect. The kind of person we are speaking of lacks empathy. EVERYTHING in their world is about them. This kind of person will do whatever is necessary to enhance and preserve their grandiose idea of 'self'.
Of course, armchair diagnosis is completely irresponsible. Better for Graciela to head to a good shrink in Aguazul to get her diagnosis and treatment protocol. Grin.
Not that she would ever do such a thing. Narcissists are perfect in their own minds.
EJ
EJ, I found your words very interesting. Food for thought. It sounds as though these folks are their own worst enemies who hurt themselves while hurting others with their bad decisions and behaviors. Now , the question is how would it be best for Monymony to deal with her narcissistic sociopath of a madre ?
Great questions. ¿Quien sabe?
There are so many theories of personality development and I am far from familiar with any of the more recent or trendy ideas on the subject.
Frankly, I have always been more interested in how folks who find themselves touched by such obscured human beings can heal from the download of toxicity, make healthy and kind choices that benefit themselves and their loved ones.
Most poisonous plants and animals are simply best avoided, ¿verdad? I remember the little ditty I learned about poison ivy, "Triplets three, let it be". Learn to recognize what is poisonous and DO NOT TOUCH IT.
EJ
Niecie in MD: I totally got a "potential couple alert" vibe with Tia and Tomas. They're about to ride for 3 hours in the back seat together headed to Aguazul. I'm guessing sparks will fly!
I could feel the patio's approval when Ale did the right thing and, without hesitation, called for Rosario to pack BMs things. We got that gift and the box of stolen cash gift but I fear the writers are "lathering us up before the shave". The avances of a drunk looking Ale contemplating a gun does not bode well!
Gracias, UA!
Do you think that Malria could also be classified as a narcissistic sociopath or is she just your run of the mill nastyass ?
"Lathering us up before the shave"—Beautifully said, Katy. I am over here hrummphing and predicting doom to try and prepare myself for the upcoming shave.
EJ
I see Malria as more of a male identified, man-stealing bitch archetype.
Have we seen her have a nice relationship with ANY woman? Have we seen her exhibit kindness toward a single female character in the show? I do not think so. Her character is certainly not very subtle or nuanced and the actress is not in the same class as Daniela Castro as Graciela. With Maria I think we are firmly in the realm of an archtype of Mexican Telenovela melodrama.
I like your comment that she is a "nastyass'. She is a hater and no mistake.
EJ, with fingers crossed behind her back to ward off scary Maria
Narcissistic Parents are a special class of human monster. Very popular in opera, theatre, and telenovelas. Graceless is a textbook case.
Dimwit needed 30K for a gambling debt but said 50 to Adolfo, who then got 100K out of Josefina.
If anyone can confirm or correct that, please do.
I love fans and feel they should enjoy a fashion revival.
Speaking of fashion, the photos today are more additions to Graceless' rap sheet.
"She was hanging on like a pitbull. Ouf!" No S**t! BM was like a piece of gum stuck in Montse's hair. And Montse finally got rid of that sticky, dirty, smelly old gum. I don't see BM's redemption, I see her anvil. She has hurt too many people to be redeemed in the end. Of course I know that we have not seen the last of her, and I predict (no spoiler here) she will slime her way back to the hacienda before this story ends. BOO!
As someone mentioned, I too wondered why Montse left Ale alone with BM in the bedroom. But in the end I think it was a good move. Ale was able to see how different BM acts when Montse is in the room, compared to the childlike manipulative manner she has when they are alone. She sounded so whiny when she was begging Ale to stay. Another good thing that came out was that Ale finally realized that BM DID help Montse try to escape the first time. It was like a light bulb went on inside Ale's beautiful head. BTW, I had to watch the scene in the bedroom a few times; SR has got one HOT BODY!
Susanlynn:
You had me LOL with, "Do you think that Malria could also be classified as a narcissistic sociopath or is she just your run of the mill nastyass?" I would have to say she is a mix of both with a side of bitchiness.
Nanette:
I am so sorry, but I have not been able to find that ssene you asked about last week between Montse and Ale that involved BM and the mention of family. Please accept my apologies. If you ever find out the episode number let me know.
UA:
Sending you a virtual hug. Always appreciate your hard work and dedication here at Caray.
Back to work...hasta pronto!
You are so right re: your 'special class of human monster' comment. May all the children of such find healing and peace.
EJ
I think that little truth-not-spoken and betrayal is much, much more forgiveable that what Maria has done with no motivation other than her own craziness and selfishness.
So I can definitely see Ale getting really mad at Montse and saying he can't forgive, but if he gets over what Maria is done before forgiving Montse, he will be DEAD to me. At least mostly dead temporarily.
Prediction; not spoiler: Graceless will be alive at the end, but will be alone. Shunned by Monserrat and all of society for her actions.
Just a quick comment on Graciela. The age difference between Lauro and Graciela is still head scratching, to me. He looks about 20-25 years older than Gracie. I wonder if this was also a case of a forced quickie marriage by her parents to cover up something. We may never know. Don't know if this is enough to hate her daughter so.
It's still possible that Dimwit was made in the image and likeness of Don Benny and not Don Lauro. It's a stretch, I know, but it's still possible. I do like the idea that Montse came along at the change of life when Gracie thought she'd closed the oven door (luckily only baking one to well done). Mothers are always harder on their daughters, so just add this to her disgust at having to have another child. It does happen.
My own grandmother is proof in point. She thought she was going to get to stop at two (my uncle and my mother), but then along comes a third. She took out all her anger and venom on my poor other aunt and made her life miserable (according to my mother--a very enlightened woman for her day).
Dimmy and the manure. Having been around horses in my younger days, horse manure isn't nearly as bad as doggie doo or chicken sh*t. Still, for someone unused to farm and animal smells, Dimmy got a nosefull. Serves him right.
Gracie the Sociopath? The only problem with sociopaths is that anvils and karmageddons they suffer aren't enough to satify us.
Carlos--Wouldn't Ale have been able to tell by cup size that he wasn't embracing Montse?
On with the rest of the comments!
So I guess Dim got off easy only having to shovel horse road apples.
The age difference between Dimwit and Monserrat is a head-scratcher when there are no others in between.
If Dimwit turns out to be the half-brother of Alejandro, obviously the maternal genes had a lot to do with who they are as well as the evil influence of Graceless on Dimwit.
That would still not be a good thing because then Dimwit could claim half of the estate. The only way that could work would be for Alejandro to mortgage it to give him half its cash value to be rid of him because he is completely useless.
I know that there are mothers who do not like their children and mothers who especially do not like their daughters. That horrible scene with Graciela and Montserrat just really got me wondering: Why?
Now, I am going to read up some more about what you have written. Thank you!!!
It is really hard for me to understand how Maria can be attractive to men when she practically oozes hatred. I don't see her as that physically attractive (and I'm sure the typical male response would be: "you're jealous". WRONG!). She is lazy. She is rude. She enjoys to the fullest extent possible hurting other people. What, in heaven's name, is attractive about this woman.
Even the slime Adolfo wasn't so thrilled with his roll in the sack with her.
There had better be a good anvil for this hate filled, woman hating sorry excuse of a woman.
Fatima
O what can ail thee, knight-at-arms,
Alone and palely loitering?
The sedge has withered from the lake,
And no birds sing.
O what can ail thee, knight-at-arms,
So haggard and so woe-begone?
The squirrel’s granary is full,
And the harvest’s done.
I see a lily on thy brow,
With anguish moist and fever-dew,
And on thy cheeks a fading rose
Fast withereth too.
I met a lady in the meads,
Full beautiful—a faery’s child,
Her hair was long, her foot was light,
And her eyes were wild.
I made a garland for her head,
And bracelets too, and fragrant zone;
She looked at me as she did love,
And made sweet moan
I set her on my pacing steed,
And nothing else saw all day long,
For sidelong would she bend, and sing
A faery’s song.
She found me roots of relish sweet,
And honey wild, and manna-dew,
And sure in language strange she said—
‘I love thee true’.
She took me to her Elfin grot,
And there she wept and sighed full sore,
And there I shut her wild wild eyes
With kisses four.
And there she lullèd me asleep,
And there I dreamed—Ah! woe betide!—
The latest dream I ever dreamt
On the cold hill side.
I saw pale kings and princes too,
Pale warriors, death-pale were they all;
They cried—‘La Belle Dame sans Merci
Hath thee in thrall!’
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